Your DH as a dad

velvetskyy

Honestly I think I trust my DH more than myself!! He is so good with other people's kids, better than I am.  haha.  He didn't have any other experience with kids, just random interactions with our friends children.

lulamagoo

Adam&Eve07:

GhostMonkey:

Hell no. I would not even consider having a child with someone I wouldn't trust with said child.

This all the way! My DH is great with DD. And I never had that feeling. 

I agree, I mean, I am nervous for both of us to be parents because of the scary unknown.

However, I have no qualms about DH being a dad, I think he will be amazing.  This is one of the reasons that I married him.

It bothers me when friends talk about their husband's 'baby sitting' their child.  HELLO!  It is their effing kid too!

MAdams728

I think he will be a great dad, and I definitely trust him.  That dosent mean I wont worry some, at first, though.  He has zero experience with babies.  I think he held our nephews a grand total of three times between the two of them, and he will be totally new to diapers and every other aspect of babyhood.  I know he will learn quickly, and I dont worry at all about his love and commitment and responsibility.

But I'm a worrier by nature, and I have slight control issues      I'm definitely going to have to work on that.  I dont even like to let my mom or MIL dog-sit my four-legged babies when we go on vacation. 

karlie87

DH has been around a few infants, so he knows the basics. When my niece was first born she spent alot of time at our house and he was really good with her. I'm sure once we have a LO I will be a bit nervous leaving him along, but I think everyone is like that they first time they leave their LO with someone for the first time. Regardless if its the father or not. But I do know that he will be a great father when we have one.

Yellow415

JumpAroundBucky:

I'm a lot more confident with him as a dad than I am with myself as a mom.

Yep!

LiteraryFoodie

I am 100% positive and have absolutely no doubt that MH will be an amazing father. He is the most patient, compassionate, generous, and responsible person I know. I feel like we are true partners in everything we do (sorry to be sappy... ) Whenever I learn something new (especially if it's kind of hippie/counter culture/not the norm) he listens and learns with me and we make decisions together. We work to always be on the same page. Every day, I feel blessed that we get to create a family together.

Blsd4given

angelsnight:

MH is very good with his older neices and nephews (3 and up), he loves to play with them and will discipline them if they're misbehaving, but he kind of kept his distance when they were smaller.  I'm sure it will be different with our own kids though.

This exactly for us too.  I dont have any children yet... But I'm not worried about DH one bit.  He's great with kids... My nieces absolutely adore him... And every kid he comes into contact with seems to love playing with him.  He doesn't seem as comfortable with babies... But I'm sure that'll wear off. 

catahoulatte

DH had little to no experience with small babies.

To this day, the ONLY times I don't worry incessantly is when DS is with MH. He is the only person in the world I put 100% trust in with our baby.

I love my parents and in-laws, but it's not the same. I trust them, but not like I do MH.

Bink720

I think it's totally normal to have worries and concerns about both your own and your partners parenting abilities.  I would be more worried if you weren't nervous.  My husband had held a baby once before ours and it was his newborn nephew right after we found out we were pregnant.  DH was admittedly nervous before we had our first, he said I had an unfair advantage (I was the Infant Teacher at a preschool).  But he was and is amazing. There is a lot of unknown with the first one.  And both parents have a learning curve.  

DH actually told me that he's much more excited about trying for a second one than he was for the first, just because he was so nervous and anxious the first time around he couldn't really enjoy it.  For me the nerves eased up when I saw DH with DS.  Don't get me wrong, it was hard leaving them for a couple hours on their own the first couple of times, or DH taking him on a solo outing.  But it gets better.  And he needed that time to learn how to do things on his own as well. 

It's not that I didn't trust DH, it was more a worry about knowing that being with children wasn't his strong suit.  You would never know that now.  We found that there were things I was really great at and dh needed some work.  And then there were other things that I struggled with and DH was fantastic.  Just remember to give yourselves some slack (both of you).  Because there will be bumps in the road, and you will need to be flexible.  But that's why you have each other, to work through them together.   Hope that helps!

gplove94

GhostMonkey:

Hell no. I would not even consider having a child with someone I wouldn't trust with said child.

Seriously!  

KellyBakes

I was very nervous when I was pregnant. DH had no experience with babies or children (youngest in his family and no extended family in the country). I was planning on breast feeding, so I knew DH wouldn't really be alone with DS for quite some time. Once DS was born though, it was a moot point. At the hospital DH wouldn't put DS down and wanted to change all the diapers. Since I was breastfeeding, he wanted all the contact/responsibility he could get. It was actually really sweet and all doubts I had dissipated then. I don't think him not having any experience made him any less of capable of handing DS at all. It was his kid and he wanted to take care of him, end of story.

Sorry that was so long, I hope that helps ease your mind. 

missusmeeseeks

I don't feel at all apprehensive about that. If anything I think he will be overly cautious, calling or texting me with questions every hour. 

nyc7781

My DH grew up in a Multi family house where his much older brothers and sisters had babies, so he had lots of experience with his nieces and nephews. I am confident that he will be awesome as a dad.  He'll probably be overprotective and I know he'll depend on me for medical stuff bc that's my career.   

I know I'll be a nervous wreck about being a mom, but together I know we can make it through anything and learn the new stuff together. And there will be tons of new stuff to deal with as new parents!  

 

nyc7781

dontstopbelievin:

I think we're both a little nervous about being responsible for a baby's life and well being, but we'll learn together and I think we'll both be great parents. 

I did worry a little bit when we got married, and I brought my cat into his life.  The first night I was going to leave him alone with the cat, he was downstairs with her trying to make friends and he started yelling at me that something was wrong with the cat and she was making strange burping noises.  I get downstairs, and she's purring.  I gave him a funny look and told him that she was purring, and he's been good with her ever since.

I should probably note that his parent's are really allergic to cats, so he had never been around one growing up.

This made me LOL 

2PuppiesHon

My DH tends to rely on me for things when I'm around, but do fine on his own when I'm not, so I'm actually hoping that once I go back to work (yeah, I'm not even KTFU, what can I say - I'm a major planner!) I want him to take a week or two and stay home full time with the baby just to see what it's like and be comfortable enough on his own.  I refuse to be one of those women who can't go out because DH can't properly put the kids to bed.

GrangerWifey

I've never once felt that sentiment about MH. I've seen him around babies and kids quite a bit and he's always seemed very natural. I'm not worried. While I have more experience with kids than he does, being parents will be completely new to us so we'll both adjust as we go. 

telicious2

I will be nervous but I'll also be nervous to be home alone with the baby too. But it all must be a learning experience so we'll learn and adapt. I'll make sure I have my phone handy in the beginning ;-)

BittyMang

No way-DH was born to be a dad-he's even more amazing at it then I thought he would be. I don't think I would have fallen in love with someone that I didn't think would be a really great dad.

nursemama2be

I'm not nervous at all. I know he will need some guidance surrounding feedings, sleeping etc but we will go through that together.

jenaw84

I think H is gonna be a great dad, he's awesome with kids.  We are going to learn a lot together, but he's been around more newborns than I have, I think we will be fine.

mypalbabs

Interestingly, even though my spouse is the one carrying the baby, she has a lot more confidence in my skills with a newborn than her own.  (I guess I'm "the father" in this situation)

BLT20051

He's amazing with kids. They love him. I can completely picture him with our kid. But he gets nervous around babies. He's gotten better and isn't as hesitant but I know he'll be fine with our own child.