Just posting this out of sheer horror (sort of graphic pic)

shaindelr

Hey, All,

I'm sorry if this is weird for me to be posting. My friend just emailed me this pic of what another KID did to her daughter at daycare. I'm ill. How could another kid bite your kid to this degree and no one steps in and does something?

She has pulled her daughter out of the daycare and her daughter has seen a doctor, but I'm just freaked out. I'm sorry that I don't have the full story, and this isn't even my kid, but I'm alone at the office, and this sincerely freaked me out.

I'm working on getting my LO to not bite (he'll be a year old in a week), and I'm afraid of him being a "biter," but is this normal? I've never seen anything like this.

Thanks for reading and sorry for the weirdness of this post.

luvmagoldn

Oh my goodness!  Please give us the details when you know them.  Poor little girl!

MammaBear81

Wow, I feel so bad for that LO!  I know biting happens in daycares (and playgrounds,etc), and the teacher can't be everywhere at all times (she might have been changing a diaper) but that looks like 3-4 bites.  If that was my child I would have done the same thing.  I used to work in daycare and we had a boy who was a constant biter.  We made sure that two teachers were in the room at all times to minimize his "damage".  Some kids do it out of frustration, but they will usually only bite once (per incident), I can honestly say that I've never seen a child bite multiple times before someone was able to get to them.  That is just horrible!

Pier1girl

OMG, that's awful!  The poor thing!  Cannot believe the other kid bit her so many times!  The biter should be kicked out of daycare for that one.

warriormomerin

My DD was a serious biter when she was 2-3. I actually saw the results of one of her worst bites on another child and it didn't look anything like that picture. She was always stopped before it could ever get that far.That definitely seems like an issue with the daycare provider more than the offending child.

 

laurakaz13

Holy cr*p! I would lose it over something like this.  I also dread my child being a biter. 

shaindelr

Thanks, Everyone. I was sort of afraid of Bumpies jumping on me for posting a pic of someone else's child, but I also figured this would be the best place to hear about daycare/biting, and vent, etc. Right now, my guy is a SAHD, but the plan is for our LO to do daycare at least part-time starting in the fall. (We teach, so our schedules are determined by the school year.)

I've always been nervous about my little guy being a biter, but now I'm sort of freaked out about him being bitten. I look at this, and I just wonder, "Where were the adults?" The child broke Natalie's skin! Is that even normal to do? I have bruises from my little guy biting, but he's NEVER done anything like this.

My friend has totally lost it over this. She's posted pics and updates on Facebook and is pretty much in "outrage mode" right now. I don't blame her at all.

Smgrochowski

Terrible!

I hope your friend brought her to a doctor, especially since it broke the skin. Human bites can get infected easily. 

LoCarb

That's awful and it looks painful. I'm disturbed the DCP didn't stop this before the biting progressed so bad. I'm sure the victim was crying in pain to get the DCP's attention.

Ms5586

Holy crap!  That is at least 4 bites!!  I would be beyond livid.  No way would I let my child go back there until something was done with the biter.  I understand teachers missing a bite, but that many????

juliettodd

I am livid for her.  I would be so pissed.  Honestly, that is all I can say right now.  I am speechless.

Buffy2010

That is horrible!  The poor kid was attacked!  My son was a biter and he has left marks on my daughter. But never that bad and NEVER more than once at a time. Those kids were clearly unsupervised for several minutes. 

jenn_darrin1515

holy sh!t! those are AWFUL!  I cannot imagine how long that poor child was screaming for the dcp's attention while getting bit like that.  absolutely unacceptable - I was react the same way your friend did.

My dd was a biter (especially to her sister) and while I couldn't always stop her from getting a single bit in, the marks she left NEVER looked close to that and there was never more than one..and it hurt!  poor baby...

shouldbworkin

this just kind of reinforces my feelings about biting/biters in daycare ... it is the daycare's responsibility to monitor the kids. Clearly, something failed here BIG time.  Kids will bite, hit, tantrum, etc. It's how they express themselves at that age.  But, they need to be properly supervised, which looks like it was not the case here. 

KathrynMD

shouldbworkin:

this just kind of reinforces my feelings about biting/biters in daycare ... it is the daycare's responsibility to monitor the kids. Clearly, something failed here BIG time.  Kids will bite, hit, tantrum, etc. It's how they express themselves at that age.  But, they need to be properly supervised, which looks like it was not the case here. 

ditto

if your kid makes it through toddlerhood/preschool w/o being bitten or biting someone else, consider yourself lucky; but the degree that girl was bitten is totally over the top and shows a serious failure of supervision - I'd be livid!

FWIW - my DD got bite in daycare maybe 2x when she was a little over 1, and then bite 1x at the same age.  She just got bit last week @ 3.5, but its unusual for kids this age.  the teachers are watchign the kids closely to make sure it doesn't repeat.

JEK76

You should suggest to your friend to call and file a complaint with whomever is the licensing body for day cares in her state.  Where I live it is the State Heatlh Department but it might not be the same for her, depending on where she lives.

I'm the mom of a 2 y/o who has been on the receiving end of bites...it sucks!  Most didn't look too bad but he has had a few that look similar to the ones in the photo...but only ONE, not 4 or 5 like that poor little girl.

jnealet

Ouch!  Poor child.  I would be angry too but I also know that kids move fast.  D1 has been bitten 2x at daycare, both with broken skin involved.  Both biters are the sweetest boys but they were having a bad day or something.

There was a child at our daycare before we started (thankfully) who was a huge biter.  Another girl would go home with bites like your photo on a regular basis.  They eventually asked the girl to not come but it wasn't fun for anyone involved.  DCP couldn't stand and watch the biter at all times and kids are smart.

WinesNotWhines

That is insane. There is no way that could happen unless there was a total lack of supervision. I know kids bite each other, and I totally understand how one bite can happen, but not half a dozen. I'm sure that poor kid started yelling/screaming/crying after the first one, and she was probably ignored.

Britnseth2006

OMG!!! Thats horrible if it were my child i would go to the authorities. Obviously no one was paying attention, and there should be no excuse for that. I would de everything possible to make sure whoever is responsible, is punished.

 With that being said i understand the teacher cant be everywhere all the time, but you would think the little girl was crying possibly screaming and that the teacher would have heard and done something?!?!

shaindelr

JEK76:

You should suggest to your friend to call and file a complaint with whomever is the licensing body for day cares in her state.  Where I live it is the State Heatlh Department but it might not be the same for her, depending on where she lives.

I'm the mom of a 2 y/o who has been on the receiving end of bites...it sucks!  Most didn't look too bad but he has had a few that look similar to the ones in the photo...but only ONE, not 4 or 5 like that poor little girl.

Thanks so much for this suggestion! I'll pass the info on to her right now!

OCNewlywed

I've had a biter and also my kids have been bitten....However, I've never seen anything like that before and my oldest is 7! Even with my son who was the biter, he was mostly caught in the act - attempting to bite but not making contact. They really kept a close eye on him. I think that is really negligent on the daycare provider's part. I don't know how a child could have done that much biting with proper supervision- between the time it took and how bad the bites were - and the poor little girl must have been screaming for quite some time...That's awful.

historychick79

Oh wow, that's truly horrible; glad they took her out!

C did get bit last week and the teacher didn't catch it. I undressed him for his bath that evening and found the bruise on his upper left arm. The daycare teachers and directors were very apologetic and concerned. The best they can tell C was probably bit on the playground at the end of the day when parents were taking other kids home and he tends to get upset anyway, so they could have mistaken why he was crying. I get that biting happens, kids can move quickly, and sometimes the room/playground can just get a bit chaotic. FWIW C has gotten bitten 3 times (twice in infant room at another daycare, and this last time) and he bites me when overtired/overexcited (grrr), but so far has never bitten another child. But what happened in that picture suggests that no one was really paying attention for some time to allow that many bites, and I don't think that is 'normal' or acceptable. 

wolverine8

My son was bitten 4 times the first week he started at a new daycare. He was 14 months old at the time and I was livid! I could not believe that was happening. I almost pulled him out, but kept on until it became a financial issue. Thankfully it never looked that bad. A bitter like that needs help.