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PrettyInPearls23

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beccaga16:

Dang I missed it...

Wasn't that good. Basically OP wrote a long post about how she's (mentally) ready to leave her DH but was trying to justify staying until her DD's were old enough to tell daddy how to take care of them becaues he's an irresponsible and unsafe father.

FyreFlyeRush

Probably my fault for telling her she was being na?ve and taking the easy way out by staying where it's comfortable. Blame it on my hormones, or my age, I understand wanting to try and work something out. I don't understand staying it's the harder choice to stay than pack up and leave. 

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beccaga16:

FyreFlyeRush:

Probably my fault for telling her she was being na?ve and taking the easy way out by staying where it's comfortable. Blame it on my hormones, or my age, I understand wanting to try and work something out. I don't understand staying it's the harder choice to stay than pack up and leave. 

I usually suggest therapy for the couple (if they have kids) before calling it quits. I believe in trying everything before divorce (with the exception of abuse/cheating etc..).

BUT, your opinion is valid and not harsh IMO. You were being honest and if people can't take respectful honesty then they are going to have a hard time with life in general. Sugar coating does not always help especially in these situations.

Winner winner chicken dinner!

The problem is that people who aren't ready for honest advice from others who have been in their shoes miscontstrue it for being snarky or rude.

FyreFlyeRush

beccaga16:

FyreFlyeRush:

Probably my fault for telling her she was being na?ve and taking the easy way out by staying where it's comfortable. Blame it on my hormones, or my age, I understand wanting to try and work something out. I don't understand staying it's the harder choice to stay than pack up and leave. 

I usually suggest therapy for the couple (if they have kids) before calling it quits. I believe in trying everything before divorce (with the exception of abuse/cheating etc..).

BUT, your opinion is valid and not harsh IMO. You were being honest and if people can't take respectful honesty then they are going to have a hard time with life in general. Sugar coating does not always help especially in these situations.

I think she mentioned therapy as well as emotional/verbal abuse. Her therapist was the one telling her to treat it like a "business" decision. That's when I rolled my eyes. Fire the therapist and hire a new one. No good therapist is going to tell their patient to stay in an abusive relationship.

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