Question....

hmartinez0809

So I have always heard that the women's body needs close to 2 years to heal completely after a birth. I know so many women who wait about 8 months or less to try again for another baby. What is ok? What is healthy? Our plan was to wait until our babies 2nd birthday to try again... What do you ladies think??

Andreabks

for us it depends on a lot.  we plan on waiting about 18 months before we start trying again (loss history, so it could be a while longer to next baby).

Then again my cousin has 4 kids under 5ys and all of her's were healthy pregnancies with no complications.

526SadieSadie

I've never heard anything like that.

I have heard several times that 2 years is a good spacing for children psychologically, but plenty of my friends and cousins have kids closer together than that and everyone is just fine.

It probably depends on each individual person though - our bodies all handle pregnancy differently.

hmartinez0809

Thank you ladies. :-) I just heard 2 years from some where...??? But 1 year makes sense and it also makes sense that every women and pregnancy is different ;-) We planned on waiting until our first is potty trained. I am a FTM with this one on the way! We are very excited and would love to have 3-4 kids ( I would love to have all 3-4 by the time I'm 35. I will be 27 in May)... So time will tell... Thank you ladies for your answers!

khill86

My OB said that ideally, 18 months between pregnancies (the end of one to the beginning of another) is best in terms of healing and being physically and psychologically prepared to start again.

But of course I know plenty of women that have had their babies closer together. My sister and I were BORN 18 months apart and turned out fine.

How long we wait to have another will depend just on timing. I don't believe that close in age = close siblings or that further in age = close siblings, so I'm not really planning on any set time to try again. I know DH wants to try again ASAP, but we'll take it all in stride and just go for it when the time is right.

gracie__r

My girls are 17 months apart, and I wish we would have waited another six months or so.  I swear I was still in a fog and I didn't really get to enjoy YDD as an infant because ODD needed a lot of care yet.  If anyone ever asked for my opinion on the matter, I'd say wait until the older is able to reason some before having another.

Twizzle

If you have had a cesarean, it's recommended that your babies be at least 2 years apart in age.

It also might depend on your particular situation with birth/labor and especially breastfeeding.  I BF'd and had an oversupply of milk, so my cycles didn't start up again until DS was 18 months old, and when they did start they weren't regular until he was over 2 years.   

HappyMama2011

I had a c/s and wanted my kids close in age. My doctors had no problem with me trying again when DD was 6 months.  She said that 90% of the healing is done in the first 3 months and the last 10% is done in the last 9 months.  That was c/s specific.  I don't know about a vaginal delivery.

Daniella4

DD1 was 8 months old when I found out of was pg again. Though it wasn't planned it was always my hopes to have my children close together. They are 16 months apart and I love it. I didn't have any complications with my second pregnancy or delivery either. I actually wanted my 3rd pregnancy to be just as close but it took this long for DH to get on board for a 3rd baby ;-)

I would say judge it by how you feel about it.