Using LO#1's (Almost) Name for LO#2

KearaD

We were team green with DS, and his name would have been Piper Jean if he was a girl. DH really wants to use Piper for this baby (if it's a girl -- we're team green again). I'm not so sure I want to use it, though. It seems too attached to my first pregnancy, and doesn't feel like it "belongs" to this baby. Does that make any sense?

It could also be that my tastes have changed a little and I'm not so sure that Piper goes well with Diggory. I can't tell. I just don't love it as much as I used to. 

Would you/ did you use a name from an earlier pregnancy for a later child?  

BrittKav

I do think Piper goes well with Diggory.

That said, we had 3 girl names we liked for DD2, and the ones we didn't choose (Rosemary & Mallory) are not on our list for a future daughter. They're just NMS anymore. My tastes change a lot.  

ChristyML

OP, I think I would start all over with this one, not because of the name, but because I think it means more, to let this baby have it's own list. Do you know what I mean? And, if on your list, you don't have Piper, you both should toss it, and same as his names. Kwim?

Sorry if it's confusing. It's what I would do. 

TripMomma

If you both still love the name I would use it...our runners up stayed on our list, since they were unused.

isacdimi10

DD was going to be Sophia or Samuel.

DS was going to be Samuel or Charlotte. Its the same exact name middle name and all that was the boy name when I was pregnant with DD.

kg_08

Trista would have been Blake if she was a boy. We're using it for this baby if it's a boy. We both still love it!

becketts

I would have no problem with using a name from a previous list of possibilities as long as it still appealed to both DH and I. We had two possible girl names for DD when we went to the hospital. The one that we didn't use then no longer appealed to us this time, and we chose a name we hadn't considered for DD#1. 

moonfaerie

I think it's perfectly acceptable to use a name for a subsequent child that you considered for another child, if you and H want to. But, if it doesn't feel right to you, then it's also fine to select from another list of names.

We have considered names for subsequent children that we considered for others. It doesn't feel weird to us, but we don't like the same names so we grasp at straws for things we both like, and also we wait to choose a final name after the baby is born.

ktpaladino

I think if I was still IN LOVE with the name I would use it, but I feel like my tastes would change over the years and I would come up with something different. I think if you are apprehensive about it, you should consider some other options. Piper does go well with Diggory though, IMO.

SarahPLiz

You have to do what feels right to you. There are no rules here, really. 

FWIW, if DS had been a girl, he would have been Elena Delphine. If we ever have a girl, that will be her name. The difference is that we picked 2 family names that we loved (Elena Delphine after both our closest grandmothers and Alexander Tiberius from DH's side), so we'd definitely still use them for a subsequent kid. I could never tell DH, " No, we aren't using Elena ever, just because we didn't have a girl this time. I don't care if it is the name of your grandmother who raised you"...I might have to sleep outside!

I have contemplated changing the middle name to Celestine, though, after my great grandmother. I like that name too.

If we have a boy next, it will be back to the drawing board. I have no idea what we'd pick.  

anchalmasako

I think Diggory and Piper go great together. I would use an almost name from an earlier pregnancy.....once you start calling the new baby that, it'll become her name (if it's a girl).

austenreader85

DS's name would have been Margaret Virginia or Margaret Ann and now both of those middle names are pretty much off the table.  Drives DH nuts too because he thinks my list should never change.  I think it makes total sense to start over of yours not sold on it.  Fwiw, I think Piper is great and goes well with Diggory.

RosnyBelinda

I would.  We were team green for our first pregnancy.  We had a boy so I figured we'd use our girl name if we ever have a girl.  We've also come across other names that we like as much as or more than our original name, so we may end up using a different name.  But I wouldn't hesitate to use a name I loved from a previous pregnancy.  

 

Bejebus

With DS, we had trouble deciding between Tanner and Owen for a boy, a girl was always Lorelei. When we had a boy and decided on Tanner for DS, we hardly had name conversations for DD- if she had been a boy, she would have been Owen, and since she was a girl, she was Lorelei. We both still loved the names, which is the most important thing. 

caramia582

No.  If DS had been a girl, his name would have been Lia Simone.  To me, Lia has a very Italian/ethnic feel.  DS's name is Cameron, so I feel we have gone in a different direction and Lia no longer "goes" with our style. 

brideofscowboy

I totally understand where you're coming from.  We're having another boy, and the boy names from DS1's list, just don't have the same appeal as they did when we were looking for DS1's name. DH still liked a few of them, but I wasn't in love with them anymore so we moved forward and found another name we both love for DS2.

 If you still love the name, go for it. If it doesn't sit right for whatever reason, don't go with it. 

GL!

LollipopsAndCrisps

I do not like Piper with Diggory, and, no, I don't think I would use a name from an earlier pregnancy for a later child.

anna7602

We were team green with DD. The boy name we chose is still the boy name we'd like to use one day for a son. I don't associate it with my 1st pregnancy. The fact is that it was DD in there, whether I knew she was a girl or not at the time.

But, if you don't feel like you should or want to use the name, don't question yourself too much and move on to a new set of names.

 

BLPL101

I didn't know that people wouldn't consider using the same name in a different pregnancy. It just seems obvious to keep the name for the next time around.

orgnlmama

KearaD:

We were team green with DS, and his name would have been Piper Jean if he was a girl. DH really wants to use Piper for this baby (if it's a girl -- we're team green again). I'm not so sure I want to use it, though. It seems too attached to my first pregnancy, and doesn't feel like it "belongs" to this baby. Does that make any sense?

It could also be that my tastes have changed a little and I'm not so sure that Piper goes well with Diggory. I can't tell. I just don't love it as much as I used to. 

Would you/ did you use a name from an earlier pregnancy for a later child?  

 

I understand this totally.  We had a boy and a girl name picked out before we found out DD was a girl.  Now prego with #2 and we have picked out a name each way again... but its not the same boy name for the same reason.  That was for the son that was to be if DD had been a boy.  Also, the first boy's name we had was just a named we like.  When we had DD she was named after my two grandmothers.  I feel like it wouldn't be fair to give #2 just a random name that we like, I want it to be as meaningful as DD.

SummerMama12

We pretty much started over with a new boys list this time.  Like you mentioned, using our runners-up from DS's list didn't feel right for this baby.  I think our style has evolved a little, and some of the names on our original list for our first son wouldn't work with our son's name anyway.

hmd

We kind of always knew DS#1 would be Cooper but we were torn on middle names. 

One of the middle names ended up on the list of first names for DS#2, but DH had a favorite that won out.  We didn't name him until practically the last possible second in the hospital.  We had a list of names written up on the board and just couldn't decide.  And the middle name that we chose that I wanted as a first name?  I just couldn't imagine calling him by that now. 

We found out early with both boys (16 weeks) and hadn't really considered any girls names so we don't have any leftovers from that.  We are considering Team Green for this pregnancy (I have an ultrasound in 3 weeks), but one of my concerns is that we will not have any names at all picked out!