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1st Trimester
This is goodbye
So sad to say but this is goodbye ladies, found out today its a blighted ovum 
Now I have to decide if I want a D n C or wait 2 weeks and hope I will misscarry naturally which I would prefer....My doc told me some scary things that can happen with a DnC such as not being able to get pregnant again. Not the type of decision I want to be making....
I wish all you ladies the best of luck and happy healthy nine months!!!
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Re: This is goodbye
Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
E & C Born 10/19/2012
I'm so sorry for your loss! I know from experience that there are no words that can comfort you. Just take a deep breath, and take it day by day.
You are in my thoughts and prayers
I'm really sorry.
If you are interested, I will share my stories. I have had both. I had two miscarriages where we found out via fading symptoms and/or sonograms that the baby was not developing - one had a very low heart rate and was measuring behind, the other's heart had stopped beating yet, I hadn't miscarried.
The first one, I waited THREE grueling weeks for my body to m/c naturally. Then once the process started (I was relieved after waiting so long!), while there was pain and such, it wasn't horrible (I mean, it was horribly, but you know) and my body completely did the job. I just had to wait 3 weeks before that happened.
The second one (with no heart beat at the 8 wk appointment), I waited 1 1/2 weeks and nothing had happened, and I just wanted it behind me, so I had the d&c. The procedure itself was nothing, but i was able to have it in a surgery suite at the office (in the hospital) and not be admitted to the hospital, get there 3 hours early for pre-op rigamarole, wait hours before d/c, etc. The bills for that procedure came for weeks following. I was so frustrated to have to pay so much for it!
If I am ever in the situation again, FX that won't happen, I will likely see if I can wait it out and have it happen naturally. Obviously you can't always, but I think early on, like you are, you have a pretty good chance of your body taking care of it once your hormone levels drop enough.
GL, its a crappy situation to be in. Hugs.
First off thank you EVERYONE for you kind words
@ susanmosley Thank you for sharing, I am so sorry for you losses. I think I have decided to wait a week and if nothing happens I am going to take the medicine to help me contract so I can do this naturally I would love for it to all be over so that I can just move on...but when I am given the choice I rather not risk any possible damage from a D&C if I don't have to.
Hang in there. It will be a roller coaster and you are allowed to feel all of the feelings you have.
I'm Britt. Me 29 | MH 29
I am so sorry hun .. so so sorry. I suffered two second trimester losses so I know how bad it hurts to know your having a baby one day and the next its taken from you. =(
Good luck on which ever you chose to do. I had to have a few d n c's and i don't know if my incompetent cervix now has anything to do with those. So if there is a natural way to do it that might be best.
Again .. so sorry