Spanking

Saltina11

Is it ever an appropriate form of punishment for kids?

IlliniQT

DH and I were both spanked as kids, but  we don't plan to spank LO.  I don't consider it a very effective form of parenting personally, but to each his own.

Aside, my opinion may completely change as I actually raise a LO, but it's easy to say what you'll do before you're in the situation.

jlsimon56

I agree.  We were not spanked as kids, we don't plan to spank.  But who knows.  If I have a hellion....  :-)

RubySB3

It's not something I plan on doing. I think it is typically a counterproductive consequence and something parents often do to make themselves feel better or in anger. But, if one day he does something severe enough that only a spanking makes sense, I may just consider it. 

mvhyde

Possibly, I hope to use love and logic and positive disciplining. But I won't rule it out. I don't think that it is appropriate for older children or preteens. I was spanked as a child and also I saw my older brother spanked and also worse.

I could tell the difference between a spanking and when my dad was just taking out his anger with my brother's behavior out on him. I do think that if spanking is to be done it shouldn't be me who does it, cus I have my father's temper.

swimiz500

I really don't think so. I have no plans to do it, and I wasn't. I don't know, I just think it is not a good form of behavior modification at all. Instead of teaching respect, it teaches fear. I know, I know, never say never, but this is one thing I am pretty confident about.

damabo80

No way, no how. 

There are very few things that I feel strongly enough about to say "I will never do this", but this is one of them I will never hit my children (on purpose...apparently I failed already when I thonked DD in the head with her carseat last week). 

AsOctoberFalls

I don't know yet. I'm not opposed to spanking, but I don't think I could bring myself to do it.

Mrs.Leah.Maria

Both DH and I were spanked as children and do not have any scars from it, mentally or physically.

It wasn't something we were dead set against, so we took a wait and see approach. DS1 is very willful and loves to establish his boundaries by challenging our authority. No amount of logic, time outs, toys take away or the like have ever gotten through to him. Spankings are our last resort, as we always give him the chance to obey, count 1-2-3, and then proceed to time outs. If he continues in the same behavior, we finally then go on to a spanking.

waterlily2k2

Mrs.Leah.Maria:

Both DH and I were spanked as children and do not have any scars from it, mentally or physically.

It wasn't something we were dead set against, so we took a wait and see approach. DS1 is very willful and loves to establish his boundaries by challenging our authority. No amount of logic, time outs, toys take away or the like have ever gotten through to him. Spankings are our last resort, as we always give him the chance to obey, count 1-2-3, and then proceed to time outs. If he continues in the same behavior, we finally then go on to a spanking.

I totally agree with this. I think they should be given every opportunity to obey. That's how it worked when I was a kid. I was spanked maybe 5 times in my whole life. I don't necessarily agree with spanking, but like others that may change when LO gets older.

mainemommy

Im not a big spanker. I said "Ill never" until my B left the baby phase. Its not something done often, C got one the other day because he left the house without permission, ignored 5 polite requests to come in, then when I picked him up to bring him in he tripped me & then kicked me in the face. Saying no & putting him in a time out alone wouldnt have been nearly enough punishment for that, he was actually laughing at me the entire time. 99% of the time its a safety issue that makes me do it. & I never ever ever spank out of anger, Ive known too many kids who got beat from what started as spankings.

We do lots & lots of time out & chores as punishment. It works well for my kids.