When did you tell family/friends?

JennyLo26

Hello

I am 4 weeks pregnant with my first and am wondering when we should start telling family/close friends. I always thought I would be one to wait a full three months before telling others but my husband and I are so excited we cannot wait to spill it out. We have our first appointment on Monday so we are obviously waiting until then but would like to let our parents know soon after. Would you? Thoughts?

ksteeb611

My RE told me the other day at 10 weeks, your chances of a miscarriage decrease to 2-3%.  That seems good to me:)

ssmb_clarinet

I told my parents, brother and aunt and uncle 2 days after my positive test. I decided that I would want those closest to me to know in case anything happened, plus I was invited to my aunts house on St Patricks day to drink and knew it would be suspicious when I said no thanks to booze.I have my first appointment on April 9th to confirm the pregnancy, but didn't want to wait until then. 

As far as everyone else, we are going to tell DHs parents at 8 weeks or so and then wait until 12 weeks to tell others. I may tell my best friend sooner as I am in her wedding in July and I feel like she needs to know since I am a bridesmaid.

Congrats on your BFP!  

Tiff520

I'm not the best at keeping secrets, so we told my family immediately.  We waited a week to tell his until we saw them in person and I told friends and coworkers within a week as well.  I also thought I was closer to 6 weeks based on my LMP when I told everyone and turned out I was only about 4 weeks when I started blabbing!  LOL.  I think it's all personl preference, so if you want to tell after your first appointment, I say go for it!!  Best of luck and a H&H 9 mths to you!

CraftyKayla

We're waiting to 12 weeks to tell everyone. I told a couple bffs at 9 weeks.

tobysnuggles

We told parents and siblings around 5 weeks. I just had my first u/s at 8 weeks and now we are telling friends and family. I still won't tell work until I get promoted or I'm showing and have too...hoping the promotion comes first!

jantyme

Each time I've been pg I've told my mom and my sister, people I would want there to support me and know if something happened. This is the farthest I've gotten in a pregnancy I'm considering telling friends after first tri but I'm not sure yet we'll see when I get there. I'm not sure I'm doing a FB announcement at all, I'm leaning toward no and just telling the people I want to know. But DH wants to at some point, we'll see.

CottonGirl

I am 11 weeks along now and we were too excited to keep it a secret!  We only told close friends and family immediately...  Only the people we thought we'd be comfortable telling if we lost the baby as well.  There are still a ton of people that don't know tho.  And honestly, I'm almost to 12 weeks now and waiting this long to tell people would have felt like eternity!  Plus, I like to drink wine and beer and the family definitely would have been suspicious had I refused a drink! 

mick64

With DS, we told family and close friends right away. I had an early m/c before getting pg with DS, and it was nice to have a few people I'm close to know so they could be there to support me. We started telling more people after our first appointment at 9 weeks when we heard the heartbeat. I think it's soooo hard to wait 12 weeks to share exciting news.  Plus, after my m/c before DS, I felt like not telling was more negative, like I had something to fear. I don't think everyone feels that way though.

This time around we're pretty much doing the same thing. We'll tell my family this weekend and DH's family in 2 weeks when we see them. My first appt this time is at 8 weeks, so may not be able to hear the heartbeat, so if I don't end up getting an u/s (which I didn't have any early ones last time) we'll probably wait until 12 weeks to tell more people this time.

Jenelle101

I called my close friends and immediate family the night we found out! I was 4 weeks. Everyone is different. I couldn't NOT tell them. I don't know how people hold it in!

kjef11

I'm 5 weeks and want to tell the world. This is our first pregnancy and we are so excited. We want to tell our parents but my mother-in-law cannot keep a secret. I also don't want it to be posted on facebook before I get a chance to tell certain people. My DH doesn't want me to tell my family if we can't tell his family so we are thinking of telling our parents and my siblings (DH is an only child) at Easter, I should be almost 8 weeks by then. Hopefully everyone can keep a secret for a month and then at 12 weeks I will tell other relatives and close friends.

jennadoll87

we told those closest to us right away. Even if we had miscarried they would have been the same people to help us through so we felt very comfortable with them.

we're 10 weeks now and we still haven't told our outer circle friends. we'll probably keep it to ourselves for a little while longer, just personal choice. 

jenaliat

I know the feeling about MIL blabbing! We are worried about that too! We are telling close friends/family now and I am only 4 weeks. I had a CP in January and only my DH and two BFF (that I also teach with) knew. We decided to think positive and let the closest people to us know early..

CP0979

I haven't told a soul yet, I'm a good secret keeper! Going to spill to family on easter and friends after that. I will be just about 11 wks on Easter. I would prob do it after my second ultrasound on Monday but I like the holiday surprise idea.

My doc is doing a second U/S bc the sac was shaped a little funny in the first one. I was glad I didnt tell anyone yet just in case there is a little problem. 

One thing I've done as excuse for drinking is telling my friends we are trying, so Im drinking less to be healthier! 

mccrazy

kjef11:

I'm 5 weeks and want to tell the world. This is our first pregnancy and we are so excited. We want to tell our parents but my mother-in-law cannot keep a secret. I also don't want it to be posted on facebook before I get a chance to tell certain people. My DH doesn't want me to tell my family if we can't tell his family so we are thinking of telling our parents and my siblings (DH is an only child) at Easter, I should be almost 8 weeks by then. Hopefully everyone can keep a secret for a month and then at 12 weeks I will tell other relatives and close friends.

This. Exactly, ha! 

+MrsT+

We told immediate family at 5 weeks.  We got our BFP at only 3.5 weeks.  We still have not yet told our friends, we are waiting until after the first trimester is over.

IrishTraveler

I just told my family this week, and DH told his as well. We told some close friends a week ago. We wanted to wait until after the first appointment, but I was out of town with a particular friend, and she asked the right questions.

JennyLo26

Glad to know I am not the only one who wants to shout it out. I think after our appointment on Monday we are going too tell our parents. I have a cousin who just had her first daughter and I would like to talk to her about things since she just went throught it. The rest will wait! Thanks for sharing your experiences!

greeneyedjess

I just told my parents this past Sunday.  I wanted to wait until after I had my first ultrasound for 2 reasons-so that I could actually SEE that everything was okay and so that I could work the ultrasound picture into telling them.  I had told a select few girlfriends and my boss (because she wanted me to move a bunch of really heavy boxes) prior to that.  And now that my mom knows, all of my family and all of her friends know because she's so excited.  It's really personal preference-one of my friends couldn't believe that I took so long to tell my mom.

CurlyQ284

We want to tell my SDs first, they will be here next weekend for spring break, then we will break the news to immediate families.  Ill be at six weeks.  For some reason its not hard for me to keep it secret, which is weird because im terrible at secret keeping.  I will tell my two best friends the following weekend, 7 weeks.  I dont know when we will tell DHs huuuuuuge extended family, 12 weeks I guess?

kplaxco85

I couldn't keep it in, everyone knew within a week of me knowing. Except coworkers who will find out in 2 weeks.

Court7803

I'll be making a my big facebook annoucement this weekend. I'll be 11 weeks on saturday so I figure its a good time to do it! Im so excited.

mayks11

Congrats!!! We waited until the doctor confirmed I was pregnant before telling our family I was already 8 1/2 weeks when we told our family and I was 12 weeks before I told my friends and co-workers. I just felt more comfortable waiting until our chance of a miscarrige had greatly decreased! I also LOVED having a picture from the ultrasound to show off to our family!!!!!!!

Stephorse

We waited until after our ultrasound which happened just last week for us so we told them Sunday night. I was just afraid of an m/s since my sister had one and had told them right away, so I wanted to wait.