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Why is everyone in such a rush to have their baby?
Sorry, just a slight rant...Everyone that I know that is pregnant is getting induced before or on their due date....Why? I can't understand why you would want to force labor before the baby is ready. I totally understand if there is a complication in which that's neces. but, otherwise why put your body/baby through that?
I am crazy for being totally O.K with waiting until 42 weeks before talking about induction methods?
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Re: Why is everyone in such a rush to have their baby?
I'm with you- I can't believe the stories from friends that induce or schedule unnecessary c-sections- let alone all the posts on The Bump about voluntary or DR suggested inductions long before they are needed. Crazy. I'm waiting til 42 weeks should I go that far...and even then, I'll try all the natural methods first.
I've learned so much form birth classes and doulas how the 9 month calendar was determined centuries ago to be 9 'moons'- which could be 2 weeks before or after your date...and many other factors involved. These kids will be pushed fast to grow up as it is in this world, I don't need to start by pushing mine out of the womb, too!
Really ladies? Please get off your high horse. Pregnancy is not all puppies and rainbows for all women and some have a VERY hard time with the comfort levels or lack thereof. I have a friend who, if she sits for more than 5 minutes cannot even walk when she then gets up - she has to wait several minutes for the intense pressure and sometimes pain to subside.
I think if you trust your MD and they are not pushing induction on you, then its really not our business to judge. Its unfortunate that not all inductions go the way they should but to act as if you are somehow awesomesauce because you have the strength and power to wait until 42 weeks while others may not is a bit holier than thou.
I agree with you. I'm someone who wants to be as natural as possible(breastfeeding, cloth diapers, medicine free labor, induction free, ext) but sometimes it isnt possible.
I was given the option today on inducing monday(which is my due date) and said no. To me our bodies will let us know when its time. I've been in pre-labor for weeks so apparently my body is getting ready.
Unfortunately my doctor wont let me go past next wednesday. While I'm glad to see this pregnancy come to a close(its been a very rough one), I'm also a little sad that he wont wait longer.
So to me, no, your not crazy. Your just like many of us. Every one has their opinions on the matter.. doesnt make them wrong.
No, not a high horse at all. Pregnancy hasn't been easy for me AT ALL. My first son was born at 30 weeks 1 day (going through the NICU was the hardest thing I have ever had to do).
Since I've been prego with this little one, I have had nothing but scare after scare (short cervix, strict bedrest, trips to labor and delivery because I have 6-12 contrax. an hour most of the day, now gest. diabetes, meds that make me dizzy constantly to stop the contrax., at the doc EVERY week if not more, now dealing with SPD that hurts so bad I can barely walk) on top of having a toddler, husband, dogs, house etc. I totally get it and I AM SO READY to be finished but in no means am I in a rush to have this baby before he is ready. As miserable as I may end up being, waiting until he is ready will be the best for both of us in the end.
Inductions in my opinion should be taken a lot more serious than they are...that's all. It's not just go to hosp., get some pit and have a baby...those things all have major risks involved that I don't think are discussed as much as they should be.
And I have a friend who gave birth to a micropremie (due in april, baby born in december) because of life threatening pre-e. He's still not out of the hospital and she'd have done anything to give him a chance to develop longer. Yes, an extreme circumstance, but so is your example.
I'd never judge a woman for making what she thought was the best medical decision for herself and her baby. But the trend of inducing for convenience is really concerning and I think a lot of people jump to an induction without considering the risks.
Its threads like these (esp. when I'm in a mood like I am tonight) that makes me feel bad. It doesn't seem like the purpose is to educate about the risks/benefits of induction, but more of an "I'm better than you" martyr mommy card of the women planning to go to 41+ weeks.
I'm being induced at 39w0d for high blood pressure issues that have been present since week 8-9. Its not quite yet pre-E, but if pre-E were to develop it would be very quick, extremely dangerous, and would be superimposed over an already serious blood pressure issue - all of which could be very risky for me and the baby. But I still feel induction is somewhat of a cop-out, or because I don't quite have pre-E yet I'm doing the wrong thing by inducing.
I've extensively discussed this with my Dr and both myself and my DH think induction is the best thing for us. Sometimes induction is not quite clear cut, or an easy answer.
Yes, this exactly.
Also, I think that having such strong opinions about how a mother chooses to bring her baby in to this world easily carries over in to having strong (and alienating) opinions about parenting. "why isn't she breastfeeding, doesn't she know it's best?" "crying it out is horrible, I would never do that!" "I would never let my kid eat that!"
Parenting is hard enough without being condemned for decisions we make. It's likely I don't agree with choices other mothers make but the thing is, it's their kid, not mine!
I considered inducing right at my due date last time because my first labor and delivery was super duper fast, I was dilated to 3 and my cervix was softening, and I live 45 minutes from the hospital. (Most of that 45 minutes is pretty wildernessy and I really didn't want to give birth in a ditch in the middle of nowhere.) My DH also has a job with a really strict schedule, so inducing would allow him to be there. Finally, I had gestational diabetes, and was a bit worried about the risks associated with going overdue.
However, I went into labor naturally at 39 weeks.
At this point, I don't want to be induced, but in ten weeks, after dealing with all of the same circumstances again, I don't know how well I will be able to remember my reasons for not being induced.
With my first delivery, I got to the hospital 13 minutes before baby was born. With my second, I went from 4cm to baby out in an hour and a half...
posts like this are just asking for drama.
i'm beyond ready to have this baby, but i'll let her cook as long as i can because it's better for her. my OB won't let me go more than a week past my due date, and i really don't want to be induced (i dread a C-section).
my MIL plans on coming up to visit (she lives in another state) once my daughter is born and she actually said, "it's be so much easier if you'd just schedule it!"
i would rather my daughter pick her own birthday, thanks.
that being said, starting the middle of next week i plan on taking a nice long walk every day to encourage her to vacate my uterus sooner rather than later. because i don't want to be induced. does that make sense?
I know how you feel. Some people have fairly easy pregnancies while others are misserable. I havnt had a even one day since mid July where I havnt thrown up, not to mention all the countless annoyances(such as hemmoroids, varicosities, pre-labor, bed rest, scaitic pain, ext). So I can see where people come from on wanting to just have it be done with.
With that said though, I turned it down. While this has been very hard to deal with, I'd feel wrong. Personally to me, I chose to have sex, which got me pregnant. Because of that I've felt like this whole time has been a test to prepare me for parenthood. Not only that, but I feel horrible for taking drugs. I've had to be on zofran since July to help me keep food, and even just fluids down. While I know its safe to take, I still feel like I've been drugging my son up because my body fails to do its job. Same with the thought of induction. To me, I'd just be drugging myself up again because I cant do it on my own.
So I've chosen to wait it out one more week(thats the longest I'll be allowed to go), just hoping that my body decides to be nice.
~ I was in no means saying that induced mothers bodies fail. Please dont take it that way. There are many, many underlining causes to how I feel. Some of them might not make sence to you, but they are very real to me.
This.
As someone who is having a repeat C-section, I've had to stop myself from feeling compelled to justify my c-sections. It really is none of your business why I had my first c-section, and why I can't have a VBAC.
That side-eye you are giving me? You will get it about a million times before your child is two for all the stuff other Moms think you are doing wrong.
I agree completely. I would not choose to have a c/s unless medically necessary. But as soon as we are nearing a countdown, I will be eating curry and pineapples, having lots of sex, and going for nice walks (and every other old wives tale in the book) to encourage baby to make an appearance naturally. Hopefully she will catch on to my subtle hints when the time comes ;-)