Am I not pregnant enough?

JemLeu

I mean people keep on commenting on how small I am. All week that is all I hear. They ask me how far along I am...I tell them 6 months....then they look at me in disgust and say " you look like 2 or 3 months" "you are tiny little thing" "is your baby ok?"  "your baby is small" "your stomach is nothing...you dont even look pregnant" "are you sure there is a baby in there" "Do you see a doc on a regular basis? I would ask them about your size"

 

I dont think I am too small or too big. I eat right, I take my Prenatal V, I stay active (so does my baby lol) and I have actually gained the right amount of weight. Nothing has changed on me but a little bump and I am okay with that. I just wish some people would learn to keep certain comments to themselves. If I didnt know that I was healthy....I would have freaked out over some of the comments.

 

Has anybody else gotten this? or maybe the opposite? what are the rudest comments you have gotten so far in this journey?

miketherdswifey

I have a long torso and it takes me a while to show.  When I was 6 months my dentist patted my belly and said "are you sure there is a baby in there?"  When my mom went in to the hospital to have me (before routine ultrasounds) the nurse told her that she looked too small to be full term and was she sure everything was okay.  Of course this made my mom nervous - and for no reason - I was a healthy 7 lb 6 oz baby!  People need to keep their yappers shut!   

Mrs. Rohde

people are weird. Don't worry so much.

sferg2010

I hear this from everyone. Yesterday someone asked my husband if I've been eating. I lost 20 lbs during the first trimester so that plus I have a small frame and I'm tall, I'm not carrying like some other women do.

Alauren4

Who cares what people say? Your going to hear comments for many years to come, whether it's about how your feeding your baby, how much weight you have gained haven't gained, postpartum decisions, when you should potty train, being a parent comes with unwanted comments and opinions from others. It's best to learn to let it roll off your back and move on. I'm a third time mom I have two boys, one of which has special needs, trust me I have heard my share, but honestly I don't give a f*** what people say or think...

mamameg11

Agreed - some people should keep their comments to themselves. About a week ago, we met up with some friends and one said "I'd thought you be bigger by now!" She then proceeded to poke/touch my tummy quite a bit, which was weird. At first I was a little offended about the comment, since I think my bump is right where it should be and no one wants to be told they look less pregnant than they are. But when I thought about it she's never been pregnant or had many pregnant friends, so I think she is just a little pregnancy-ignorant. I just smiled and said, "nope this is what my 6 month bump looks like!"

JemLeu

I dont care.  I was just sharing and wondering if anyone else was going through the same thing. This is my first child.

hmartinez0809

I am in the same boat! I get that ALL the time! It's flattering at times but other times it's annoying and a little rude. All women carry different... Hang in there... :-) I am sure you are just fine. ;-)

JemLeu

LOL @the pregnancy ignorant part. I guess ppl think all women are suppose to let themselves go once they become pregnant. Like, sit on the couch and eat krispy kreme all day.

crystalrain

Yup, I get those kinds of comments all the time at work. I'm 5'3 and thin, my doctor has told me I'm right on track for weight gain, but I've got a small bump. It's definitely annoying having people comment on how small I am or staring at my stomach every day, waiting for it to pop out. Oh well! I know I'm healthy and so is baby. That's all that matters.

SposaBellarina

Yep- I am a small girl with a small baby.  Last week, someone tried to get another teacher (35 weeks pg and big) and me (24 weeks and not) to stand side by side for comparison.  I really think people forget that every pregnancy is different, and no woman, even a pregnant one, welcomes criticism of her body.

kjem182

JemLeu:

I guess ppl think all women are suppose to let themselves go once they become pregnant. Like, sit on the couch and eat krispy kreme all day.

We're NOT?!?  Crap....   

kjem182

JemLeu:

I guess ppl think all women are suppose to let themselves go once they become pregnant. Like, sit on the couch and eat krispy kreme all day.

We're NOT?!?  Crap....   

surprise3rd

That is not me, but I wish it were, I am the opposite, I look like I am ready to have a baby and am so not even close.  My BFF in real life was 7 months before she even looked pregnant and needed maternity clothes, so I can see how it happens to some women.  Everyone carries differently!!  Enjoy your pregnancy!

luvmygoofyguy

kjem182:

JemLeu:

I guess ppl think all women are suppose to let themselves go once they become pregnant. Like, sit on the couch and eat krispy kreme all day.

We're NOT?!?  Crap....   

HA!!!

Seriously though, if you lurk on these boards at all, you'll notice this is a daily topic in some places. People will say what they will. I get comments all over the place. I think its that people want to share the experience with you, but just don't know the appropriate things to say. Or atleast, most people are that way. The ones who mean it in a snide way - well, I give them a dopey smile and make a vague comment about how deleriously happy I am about being pregnant (even if I feel like crap and their comment made me feel worse). Drives them batty.

TNWifey

What I don't understand is why most of the people making these comments are already moms themselves. Do you have the baby and then suddenly forget how majory annoying those types of comments are? BTW- people have acted like I'm sooo small, and sooo big both, so I guess the pg size is in the eye of the beholder, lol.

pinkpepsi

I will be 18 weeks this thursday and I still have no bump, still fit into all my jeans with no discomfort and this is my 2nd child... So I feel your pain. I have 3 friends all due in august with me and they are all showing.. I always here "You are so small"  "Are you eating?" "Is the baby  on track?"

It makes me feel so behind, But I do eat, baby is ok, and I guess I will catch up eventually!

byrne15

With ds, I got these comments a lot.  In fact, people didn't even notice I was pregnant until I was 34 weeks.  Then when people found out I had the..."is your baby ok?"  "are you eating", "maybe you are having a dwarf", etc.

People are just rude if they want to be.  I'm sure they say rude things to girls who seem further along too.

ateal2490

I want to know why the f*ck pregnancy serves as a pass for people to discuss our bodies, period. 

It is NOT ok to comment on: weight gain, belly size, growing boobs, complexion, or hugeness.

People have zero manners these days. 

LMB1231

I think it's interesting how as a society its really wrong to ever point out if someone is overweight but if you are small or smaller then "average" you are fair game. I know that some women get comments about being large (especially when pregnant) but you don't usually get chided over like if you seem to be smaller then what they think you should be. People feel entitled to say some really stupid things when pregnant women and babies are involved, go figure!

PaMommy02

I get this all the time too! There is even this girl at work who keep saying "I forgot your even pregnant"....hello! I'm 6 months!

The funny thing is that I've actually gained pretty much and showing quit a bit.  Also, I was skinny before, now I'm clearly not!

People are just wierd. I think when they dont have anything to say some poeple just pull something out of the air!

mom0716

The same thing has been happening to me. I am just really tall and started off in shape. So my belly isn't exploding into this huge belly. I am sad that I don't have a bigger bump but at the same time very happy because I am not big and miserable already. 

ShanaRoxy

ateal2490:

I want to know why the f*ck pregnancy serves as a pass for people to discuss our bodies, period. 

It is NOT ok to comment on: weight gain, belly size, growing boobs, complexion, or hugeness.

People have zero manners these days. 

 

 

I completely agree with you! I am absolutely disgusted by some of the comments I have heard people say to pregnant people. I've been lucky so far, but as soon as something disrespectful is said to me, I have a feeling I will be bitting someone's head off!

sunnidazze12

I have the opposite problem. I cried the other night when my sister said: "are you sure you want to gain that much weight? I mean the baby only weighs 1 lbs."

SunAndRain

well, my mom told me tonight that I'm getting fat. She hasn't even physically seen me. See my post above.

To your sitation I would just respond "Our doctor tells me that my baby and I are right where we are supposed to be.  Thanks for your concern." and then change the conversation.

liyahc9

I think some people just need to mind their own business. As long as you know u r doing everything you should be doing that is all that matters. Just because society has a "larger" view on how a pregnant woman should look doesn't mean u r doing anything wrong! Just keep yourself healthy!!

reinedecajun

surprise3rd:

That is not me, but I wish it were, I am the opposite, I look like I am ready to have a baby and am so not even close.  My BFF in real life was 7 months before she even looked pregnant and needed maternity clothes, so I can see how it happens to some women.  Everyone carries differently!!  Enjoy your pregnancy!

 

THIS! It's awful..I have one person in particular that likes to point out how huge I am on almost a daily basis for 6 months. I have started to just joke it out but honestly it gets old after a while. Im scared to see what people will start saying in a few months when i am ready to "pop"