Thinking about going from 2 to 3?

jaymicans

Don't get me wrong, I love my boys; and sometimes I think about the possibility of another baby. But in reality its (60/40) 40% sure I would like another one...but I already have a 10 yr old and 15 mo old!! I personally thought I was done having kids at 30 since I had my 10 yr old well at 20. But now I am 30 with an 15 mo old and 10 yr old boy...and sometimes wonder what it would be like to have two close in age and if it would be unfair for the 10 yr old who is also from a previous marriage.

I have always heard going from 1 to 2 is hard...but not for us with our age gap. Can anyone help shed some light on going from 2 to 3? Or any other advice!

purdiegirl2

I have a 13 yr old and a 10 yr old and then a 14 month old the jump from 2-3 wasnt a big one for me but maybe it was the age gap between the kids, my cousin has 4 kids she said the biggest jump was from 1-2 the rest kind of just joined in no problem. I hope that helps a little.

Ginlyn0

I can't really help much because I never had my own kids close in age (mine are 10 years apart). However, I went from 1 of my own to parenting 4 in one year. 4 kids ages 5 and under (youngest was 14 mths).  So when I had DS in 2010, it was a walk in the park. LOL

sweetwalks

I'm also interested in these answers. We have 2 boys who will turn 3 this fall and we would like to have another in a year or two. I don't see it being a problem, but I do wonder how "unfair" it may be to SS who is only here part of the time, but the other two would be here full time. 

Rhenna

My kids are all fairly close in age but my older brother and I were 2 years apart and we spent a lot of time together as kids.  My mom decided she wanted another 7 years after I was born.  My younger brother had no one to play with and we couldn't really be bothered with him because we were so much older.  I think now looking back that my younger brother did feel left out a lot.  But that is opposite of your scenario and it's probably harder for a younger child to understand than an older child.  The older child will be looked up to by the young ones and they will think he is the coolest person in the world I'm sure.  I really don't think your 10 year old will care too much.

jaymicans

Thanks for your feedback! 

PrimReaper

DD1 is 6 years older than DD2 and will be 8 years older than DD3.  However, she lives with us pretty much full time and DD2 and 3 are her "sisters" and not ever thought of as half-sisters even though that's the biological case.

She loves being a big sister though and is excited to have another baby to love.  Although she has asked if we love DD2 more than her, those questions have stopped now that the baby is bigger and doesn't need quite as much attention. 

As for the change from 2-3, I can't comment on that just yet.  I imagine it will be a little harder than 1-2 for me because DD1 was old enough to listen and follow direction when DD2 arrived.  I think having a toddler and a new baby will be more difficult.