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Going from 2 to 3 and working?

jaymicansjaymicans member
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Don't get me wrong, I love my boys; and sometimes I think about the possibility of another baby. But in reality its (60/40) 40% sure I would like another one...but I already have a 10 yr old and 15 mo old!! I personally thought I was done having kids at 30 since I had my 10 yr old well at 20. But now I am 30 with an 15 mo old and 10 yr old boy...and sometimes wonder what it would be like to have two close in age and if it would be unfair for the 10 yr old who is also from a previous marriage.

I have always heard going from 1 to 2 is hard...but not for us with our age gap. Can anyone help shed some light on going from 2 to 3?

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Re: Going from 2 to 3 and working?

  • SweetBaby2004SweetBaby2004

    We found the transition from 2-3 easier than 1-2.  Our 1st two are 19 months apart and there is a 3 1/2 yr gap between #2 and #3.  We just had our 4th and so far it has been pretty good. 

    I work FT but DH is a SAHD so that helps us a lot in that we don't have to get ready for daycare/morning routine.  DD#1 was 5 and DS was 3 1/2 when DD#2 was born so they were excited and eager to help. 

    Good luck with whatever you decide.

    DD#1 11/7/04 DS#1 6/24/06 Chemical Pregnancy 6/08 DD#2 1/28/10 after secondary infertility, Clomid, & acupuncture missed m/c 6/2010 at 8 weeks (baby stopped growing @ 5.5) DS born sleeping 1/13/2011 due to cord accident at 22 weeks. DD#3 3/10/2012
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  • kpowerswkpowersw

    Our first two are also 19 months apart and our 3rd is 3 years younger than our second (really similar to the above) except we found going from 2-3 a LOT harder.  I think it was becasue baby #3 has been a really, really tough baby while baby #2 was really easy.  So I'm wondering if the baby's temperment might be more of a determining factor than what number kiddo it is.  I'm sure there are plenty of other factors as well....

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  • luvmagoldnluvmagoldn

    Well, I had two at once and then the third 26 months later.  Adding a new person to the mix is challenging.  But you figure it out, get a new rhythm, etc.

    I do sometimes feel as if my head is spinning around when I am trying to respond to three people all at once.  But we are working on taking turns when talking. Wink

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    My twins are 5! My baby is 3!

    DS#2 - Allergic to Cashew, Pistachio, Kiwi

    DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame

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  • gimmietimmiesgimmietimmies member

    2 to 3 wasn't too bad. The age gap really helps though, and the dynamic is different with the older vs two younger close together. I like that when my younger dks go to bed, ds is still up and we can spend time together, and he doesn't feel like it's all about the girls. Funny, but he actually really likes spending time with S, and they are really close (she chats to him constantly, and he'll play and read with her).

    And I work, it's doable. 30 is still young, you're not over the hill yet. Wink

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