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babydaddy drama
okay, i'm not single but i am basicly because my babydaddy doesn't even call or text me to see me. the only time he ever calls me is in the middle of the night, and you can guess what he wants at that time.. but anyways i'm 22 and he's 21, he as 2 daughters already with 2 different girls they are 19 months and 8 months old now, now i'm having his son in july. he doesn't ever see his daughers, but he acts like he wants me around just because i'm having his son. do you think he just wants me around because i'm having a boy, cause when i got pregnant he didn't want me around him what-so-ever then he found out i was having a boy and he came running back to me..i don't know what to do anymore.. i don't know if i should forgive him cause he cheated on me non-stop with a ton of other girls when he said he was out with his friends..
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Re: babydaddy drama
Wow. One, do NOT take him back. He cheated on you. End of story. It does sound like he wants something to do with you since you are having a boy. My XH didn't even care when he found out our second was a girl but was the opposite with our son.
Stop answering his calls. Respond via text and email only and STOP seeing him, especially for a f-ing booty call. You're only setting yourself up for disappointment. Update him in regards to the pregnancy and once that baby is born then go for child support. I can't really tell you the best option regarding visits since you didn't really tell us what kind of guy he is except for being a cheater who plays games. Be sure to document everything he says and does as it may help you in the future.
Maybe check out babygaga.com as well.
he's addicted to drinking, and to having sex. he isn't a very good guy, but i chose to sleep with him and be with him so i made my own bed now that i'm pregnant. he doesn't care about anyone but himself, and it i do something wrong he has hit me before. that was before i found out i was pregnant, he's thrown me on the bed. he's always drunk, his drinking is out of control...
It doesn't sound like your relationship is going any where. If I were you I would stop seeing him. And when the baby is born DO NOT add him to the birth certificate, DO NOT give your son his name, and DO NOT give him visitation. Yes, he can see the baby if you are there but do not let him take the baby on his own. If he wants parental rights he will need to go to court and fight for it since you are not married. My situation was not exactly the same as yours because I am older than you and I lived with my BF and after the baby was born we got engaged. For three years there was no cheating and I thought the same as you because I was had his son it meant something to him (he has two daughters with his exwife).
Well let me tell you in the end it didn't matter to him that I was the mother of his son. He left me for someone else just like he did with all of his other exes. I thought I was different, but I found out the hard way I wasn't any different in his eyes than all the others.
I regret that my son has a different last name than me. Do not make things easy for him. You need to open your eyes and see him for who he really is a boy who isn't mature enough to handle a family. I hope you have the support of your family to help you with your son. Lean on them and learn how to be independant and you will be ok. You will never have to rely on a man to take care of you. Go to school get an education so that you will be able to take care of you and your son.
i don't know what "MUD" means, but if you don't like what i post don't comment on it. you don't know what i go through everyday, and to come on here when i have the time and read that someone said "MUD" on a post that is very very VERY serious is kinda rude. i'm staying calm cause i'm not a mean person, but don't slam my stuff because you think it's trash. thank you.