mixed emotions re: ex remarrying

mom2one

So I found out this weekend that my ex is probably going to get remarried next fall. I am ecstatic for me and DS. We get along great, and DS likes her...she and I always have each other's backs. I am kind of sad for her though. I think she deserves so much better. :-/

Holly_1007

wow its great you guys get along so well!! you're very fortunate that there is a great woman in your DC's life when he is with his father. 

she will figure it out herself

blush64

It's great that you get along so well with this woman and it's wonderful that your DS likes her too.

Don't worry too much about her, she is an adult and hopefully knows what she's getting into. And maybe it will turn out really well for them too.

Karma1969

Maybe her experience will be different than yours?

If not she will figure it out. 

mom2one

Karma1969:

Maybe her experience will be different than yours?

If not she will figure it out. 

 

It hasn't been different so far. But you guys are right...it's her life and decision to make. I'm glad for me though. 

MrsBPO

Karma1969:

Maybe her experience will be different than yours?

If not she will figure it out. 

She's a different person.  Maybe what drove you nuts is something she can deal with.

I've been with DH for seventeen years and ex for about 8 (and half of those were miserable).  He's been with his current wife as long as I've been with DH.  She can put up with a lot of stuff from him that drove me crazy and DH puts up with a lot from me that drove the ex absolutely batty.  We're different people with different personalities, expectations and life experiences.

It's fantastic that your DS will have a stepmother with whom you have an excellent relationship.  (Mine with the ex's current is not fantastic, sadly.  It's good to see when it works because when it doesn't it can be miserable.)

mom2one

MrsBPO:

Karma1969:

Maybe her experience will be different than yours?

If not she will figure it out. 

She's a different person.  Maybe what drove you nuts is something she can deal with.

 

No one should have to deal with domestic violence. If it were just about being irritating, I wouldn't sweat it.

mom2one

Today my emotions are not mixed at all. She should not marry him. Ugh.