Poll: What made you finally decide to TTC?

MAdams728

 I dont think it was really anything specific.  We have never wanted kids, at all.  And then several months ago it was like someone flicked a switch, because we both decided we DID actually want one.   We have been married for 11 years, together for 15.  I'm about to be 32, so my age probaby had something to do with it.  There's not a whole lot of time to continue saying "I can always change my mind". 

PeekaRu

We weren't really sure for a long time, we knew that we needed to be in house (these are our requirements), no CC debt and have savings. Since I am the one with the high paying/ stable job, we also needed him to make enough to support the family if something happened and I couldn't go back to work. So our goal was to get me though my half marathon and then we would revisit the topic with a timeline. 

 

Well, we bought a fixer upper and there's lots to do before a child would be feasible, but then my mom got sick. I realized that it would be devastating to me to not have my child know their grandmother. So we are trying now. 

 

My mom is fine, btw, but it certainly lit a fire.  

cdzcapok

We have always wanted kids, but thought we would wait until we had enough money and felt 'ready'.  Well, just before our one year anniversary we realized that we were never going to feel like we have enough money and wouldn't exactly feel 'ready' so we decided to go for it.  Now we both have baby fever so bad and we are getting really impatient!   Three of our friends have recently had babies, with another due any day now which makes it even harder!!  DH was even hesitant to look at pic of friend's new baby last night b/c as he put it, 'it just makes me jealous'.  Aww

AngieV84

I have always wanted kids, but before we got married, we decided we would wait until our first anniversary to TTC, that way we could have a year to ourselves, do some traveling etc.. That didn't last long!  A few months after we got married, we had a talk and decided that we didn't want to wait anymore, and that we would actively start trying, so here we are trying for #1.

TofuMama7

We always wanted our kiddos to have one school year in-between them (i.e. when DS is in 3rd grade #2 will be in 1st). So we started trying when DS turned 1 last month.

janice9821

A couple months after we got married, there was a big flood and I couldn't get to the store to pick up my BCP prescription.  The day I ran out of pills, the flood waters hadn't receded yet and we still couldn't get to the store.  We took it as a sign, and decided to start trying.  

smittie417

We always knew we wanted a baby when we were married 2-3 years.  I kept putting it off because I didn't feel it was the right time.  We constantly prayed about it and then we decided to start trying last August.  If I get PG this cycle, we will be married for just over 3 years.

daisy19782011

finally met the man of my dreams and that was one thing we both wanted sooner rather than later---we are 33 & 34.  Corny but true

jaimeCRN

With DS, we knew we were ready to have a baby.  Both of us have always wanted a big family and the timing was right.  This time, we feel like our family isn't complete.  Also, it seems like everything is in place again.  Sounds kind of cliche, but it is true. 

Shayliz

I wanted to TTC for a while, but we waited until right before we got married.

MommaG123

holly321:

I really want my kids to be close in age.  I hope for 2u2.

This is us too.  If I got PG today they'd be a year and a half apart which is the closest we would want them.  So we won't be preventing anymore and we'll just play the wait and see game. I can't really chart or anything until I get AF again.

brianabrad

DH and I had always planned for me to go off the pill and for us to start TTC 3 to 6 months after our wedding. We'll I was in an accident and ended up with a bad injury to my ankle that I'm still rehabbing. I ended up in a cast and a walking boot so we pushed back TTC until we knew 100% that I would be okay without surgery. We didn't want to chance anything. We found out in late December that I would be okay without surgery so I finished my current pack and now we are TTC.

During my first cycle off the pill, I was pretty regular and got AF about 3 days later than I should have. Expecting her again the first part of next month but hoping she doesn't make a return visit. DH and I hope we are blessed quickly but if not, we'll just keep trying and enjoy the funu. 

lobosabby

I literally woke up one morning and wanted it. I didn't say anything to DH because we weren't really ever sure if we wanted a family. It was so weird and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I didn't tell DH for months. BUT I'm glad I finally ripped off the band-aid because he had been thinking about it too! He was all in!

Lesson learned: Communication is uber important!

Cindal

For us it was a slow build...we'd been debating on having kids since our first year together. I was still very young and we weren't married and there seemed like there was alot I wanted to do first. I told him when I turned 25 I'd think about it. Turns out I started really considering a year or so earlier. I kept finding myself wandering into the baby aisle or picking up a cute onesie only to stop and shake myself out of what-ifs. Then we got married, bought a house, and everything started falling into place. I took my best friend's maternity pictures in late September and when I went home I told DH that I was ready if he was. He wasn't, then a few months later I caught him in the baby aisle. Now just a few months after my 25th birthday we're officially ttc! I find it a little funny that six years ago I pegged it almost right on!

KellyBakes

I wanted my kids to be close in age so that they grow up together. DH and his brother are 10 years apart and don't have any sort of relationship. Also, I don't want to wait until I forget what its really like to have a baby.

lycih

MH was ready pretty much as soon as we got married (we'd been together for 9 years at that point), but I'd just finished grad school and wanted to actually work after school for awhile, so I kept saying I wasn't ready.  It took a 7 mos after we got married to find a job; we started trying after I'd been working for 15 mos.
What really clinched it, though, was how utterly gutted I was by miscarrying.  After that, I knew, without any question, that I really, really wanted to start a family, not that I was just "ready to try."

augieskitchen

DH and I decided that we would start a couple of years into our marriage and last summer we decided that we would start at the first of the year. I have always known that I have wanted kids and would have been fine with getting pregnant right after getting married but knew it was smarter to wait and establish ourselves.

phdwyfe2013

We've been married a year and a half. I'm in school (last year, fx, of a PhD), and hubby works. We wanted to make sure that we could afford a child and we wanted to enjoy married life a bit. But hubby is a few years older than I am and wants a kid - he asked me on his 33rd birthday (June) to go off the pill. I said no because I wanted to be done my thesis proposal. Well, I had a proposal defence set for December at the end of October, so I went off the pill. We ended up getting pregnant in December just after my proposal defence, but miscarried in January. So here we are, trying again. 

curlylocks3

We waited until we bought our home and were settled at our jobs and then were waiting on some health stuff for me. We were hoping to start this spring but decided to start trying a little earlier while on vacation. 

McFelix5711

About 8 months into dating, I told DH I wanted to be married and at least trying to get pregnant by the time I was 30 (was 26 at the time). I wanted to find out if he was at all interested in a future with babies and marriage, before I spent any more time with him. Fortunately he was

When we got married, I was 30 and he was 40. We would have started trying right away, but I had a project at work that I could not be out for. Once the estimated end of the project was within 9 months, we agreed to start TTC. 4 months in and we are excited and anxious for our BFP!

yaeger16

We decided that we wanted our LOs close in age, so here we are!