I had my RE with me at all my RE appointments for monitoring but now wondering if that was overkill as there is not a lot he can do at these.
So, tell me.....
[Poll]Multiple ectopics, 2 failed IVF's
IVF #1: Did not get to ET, embies all failed PGD (major chromosomal defects)
IVF #2: We have 2 chromosomally perfect embies as a result of PGD (Boy/Girl) 1 failed the thaw (Girl) Transferred 1, yet ended as a c/p
Thought it was the end of our TTC Journey 6/20/2012
SHOCK BFP 9/28/2012: IT'S A BOY! and everything is normal !!!!!!
Little A born 38w 2d on 05/23/13 and is a true miracle for this IF Vet!
Re: Clicky Poll Time: DH at your RE appointments
TTC since March/April 2010
DX: MFI - less than 1 million sperm, 26% motility
DH put on anastrozole to increase counts
June/July 2011 100 mg Clomid + TS IUI#1 & IUI 2 - BFN :-(
Forced break due to DH getting spinal surgery in August 2011
IVF - January 2012: BFN
FET in April 2012 - BFP at 6dp5dt! Beta #1 at 9dp5dt: 82.5, Beta #2 at 12dp5dt: 352 Beta #3 at 19dp5dt: 6000, saw heartbeat and one little bean at 5W6D!
After nearly 3 years of waiting our LO was born December 18th 2012!
I had him with me for all the early testing/ monitoring while we were getting our diagnosis.
It turns out that he is stressed out by being at the doctors office. Being around him while he is stressed out makes me anxious. Him being around me while I anxious ratchets his stress/anxiety levels even higher...which I turn makes me even more anxious. It's a massive negative feedback loop. Once I realized how bad it was getting I asked him to skip the basic appointments to limit my own stress levels.
So now he only comes when it's needed. Transfer/retrieval/consent signing. He came to the pregnancy ultrasound and to the rushed ultrasound after I started to miscarry but he didn't come to the ultrasound to confirm that I miscarried. I decide when he comes
The major downside is now that we have gone from being a simple case to a difficult case- he was left out of so many WTF and planning meetings with the doc/nurses that he no longer feels like there is any rhyme or reason to the testing and protocols and it's making him much less willing to keep going if he thinks the doctor is just throwing spaghetti at the wall instead of following the logical approach that I see.
But I still wouldn't want him there for basic monitoring. It's bad enough I'm getting my vagina probed without him cracking uncomfortable jokes (his method of dealing with stress) at the same time. He's too accustomed to saving his introvert/shy wife from being the center of attention... And there's just no way to avoid being the center of attention when you have your feet up in stirrups for the whole world to look.
Friends for 17 years. Married 10. TTC since Jan 2009.
2013: IVF#3/FET#4 Elisabeth CJ born April 30, 2014
Cerclage, P17, and 3 months of bed rest brought us our Rainbow.
Dum spiro, spero.
Beta#1 (12dp3dt)= 353, Beta#2 (15dp3dt)= 1466, Beta#3 (22dp3dt)= 14,139, First u/s: TWINS!!
After 10 weeks of bedrest, our two little ladies joined us at 28w6d
Our husbands sound so similar it's scary - except for that mine didn't come to all the initial testing. He had just started a new job (literally a month or so before) so it was hard to ask for a lot of time off so early on.
DX: 6/9/2011: Azoo ICSI/IVF only option for biological child
IVF #1: ER - 9/26 * ET - 10/1 * beta#1 10/13 - 140 * beta#2 10/17 - 477 * beta#3 10/20 - 1101
1st u/s at 6w6d - one hb * 2nd u/s at 8w3d - no hb detected 11/10/11 * natural m/c 11/13/11
FET #1 Jan/Feb 2012 - 3 delays - cancelled 2/13
FET #1.2 - May/June 2012 - ET 6/6/* beta#1 6/15 - 95 * beta #2 6/19 - 322 * beta #3 6/22 - 940
7/6 1st u/s @ 7 weeks - one beautiful hb - released from RE
EDD 2/22/2013
PAIF/SAIF/PGAL welcome
Me: 35 DH: 30 TTC since 1/2010 DX: 6/15/2011: MFI IVF with ICSI
IVF #1: Sept 2011: Beta 10/10- BFP!! 1st u/s 10/31/11 1 blighted ovum, 1 embryo 2nd u/s 11/14/11 stopped growing, no h/b D/C 11/17/11
IVF #2: FET 5/4/12 : Beta 5/16/12 BFN
IVF #3: ET 7/6/12 : 7/18 Beta #1 BFP at 246, 7/20 Beta #2 at 713, 7/27 Beta #3 at 9068. 1st u/s 8/7 with one lovely hb.
Mabel is here! 2/17/13!
DH comes to almost all of my appointments, but it's not so much about being there for me, as it is that I need a driver. Three of the four clinics I went to were over three hours away and I have pretty poor vision. With the last one, I was able to do my monitoring locally so I was able to drive myself, he still went to two of of those. He can read the ultrasound screen from across the room and we get more information that way.
We are also fortunate that we both work out of the home.
Dx MFI, AMA, Endo, AMH .16
Lap 10/09 Removed endometrioma, stage IV endo and adhesions
Lap 2/10 Endometrioma cysts & adhesions returned.
Ivf #1 4/10 Antagonist, ET Cancelled.
IVF #2 2/11 A/ACP+E2V C/P
IVF #3 6/11 Letrozole/Antagonist BFN
IVF #4 11/11 Low stim Antagonist BFN
Lap 3/12 Lap & Selective HSG
Many cycles of Letrozole and LP HCG w/TI and LDN
IVF #5 8/12 Low stim BFN
IUI #1 10/12 BFN br> S&PAIFW
After 6 long years of TTC and a traumatic birth... I finally got to hold my baby in my arms!
'Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.'Psalm 37:4
2006 start TTC
2007 Start w/ RE (Endo and MFI previous marriage)/ 2008 Vericocele surgery/3 clomid cycles
2009 Lap removed stage III endo/ 2 failed IUI/ Divorce
2011 Remarried
October 2011 Dx: Endo & DOR/ November 2011- clomid & TI cycle
January 2012 IVF~ Flare protocol 10 ER/ 9 mature fertilized with ICSI/ ET- 2 Grade A Blasts/ 4 frozen= BFN
Febuary 2012- -Endo Biopsy/ MTHFR diagnosis
March 8- FET 2 grade A blasts= BFP!!!!
November 2012- Charles was born by emergency C-Section
Dealing with:
Stage III Endo/ DOR/ MTHFR two mutations C677T & A1298C
Currently TTC #2 FET planned January 2014
DH only comes to appointments where we get specific info or they need info from him. His job has crazy hours and I'd rather he use his time off for the days/times that are SUPER important and not just random monitoring/bloodwork days. It's really exhausting to wake up for all of the monitoring appts and I hate for both of us to have to go through that unnecessarily. This way, DH knows that when I ask him to be at an appt, he definitely needs to be there.
That said, if I wanted him to be at all of my appointments, he would absolutely make that happen.
I really suck at staying pregnant
I said ?other?... DH came to every single appointment (monitoring included) when we were doing IUI?s. After three cycles, once we started IVF the process was getting a bit old and I told him that he really didn?t need to come. He skipped two appointments and then felt bad that he wasn?t going and has come with me since. He says it is the least he can do with everything I have to go through! ...I am so thankful I have such a sweet hubby!
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TTC #1
Me 42, DH 47
Dx = AMA/DOR, MFI
IVF/ICSI #1 = BFN
IVF/ICSI #2 = BFP; early loss
IVF/ICSI #3 (DE) = BFP; early loss
FET = BFN
IVF/ICSI #4 (DE w/ CCS) = BFP
Beta #1 @ 10dp6dt = 265; Beta #2 @ 14dp6dt = 1251.
1st U/S @ 6w2d showed one perfect little heartbeat!
2nd U/S @ 7w2d. HB 132 & everything measuring on track.
Our beautiful little girl arrived January 2015!
He's come to all discussion/education appointments, one of the IUIs, the HSG, the hysteroscopy, the IVF ER and ET and the disastrous pregnancy ultrasounds.
He's offered to come to other appointments, for instance he said he'd be happy to accompany me to the saline ultrasound last week, but geography wise it doesn' t make sense. It's 45 minutes and we'd be taking 2 cars because my work is halfway in between.
DOR and AMA
2/12-5/12: 4 IUI cycles = all BFN;
7/12: DE IVF # 1 (with ICSI)- 20R, 16M, 14F, 5DT of 2 blasts; 6 frosties = BFN;
Lupus anticoagulant initially high, then found to be normal on hematology consult;
Follow up testing in September all clear;
Started synthroid for "high normal" TSH;
FET # 1- late October 2012- BFP on FRER; beta # 1- 21(low), beta # 2- 48 (still low), beta # 3- 132, beta # 4- 1,293; beta # 5- 5,606; last beta- over 100,000. First u/s 11/21- heard heartbeat
12/12- Officially an OB patient!
Level 2 ultrasound at 20 weeks shows vasa previa and VCI
Referral to MFM and mandatory c section for delivery
Beautiful baby girl born at 34 weeks
Finally home after 15 day NICU stay!
Trying for sibling: FET # 2- May 2014; beta 5/31, BFN
FET #3, early July 2014; beta 7/14, BFN
DE IVF # 2- August 2014; 14R, 13M, 11F, 5dt of 2 blasts (3 AA), 5 frosties = BFN
FET #4- December 2014, yet another BFN
Dr. KK work up shows borderline uterine blood flow, elevated NK cells, and MTHFR mutation (homozygous for c677t)
Added baby aspirin, prednisone, supplements, Metanx, and intralipids
Switched to large clinic for final attempt; had endometrial receptivity testing in January; FET March 2015 = yet another BFN
Likely OAD- NBC
IUI #1; m/c;c/p 3/15/2012
IUI #2: Clomid, ovidrel trigger, prometrium;4/5/12; BFFN; IUI #3, clomid and injects; Beta June 8th????