Should of stuck to my plan...

ginger0825

So about 2 months ago when we found out we were having a boy my husband and I decided not to tell anyone the name we picked out. Family and friends were making clear which names they like and don't like.

Well now we finally set on a name and in our excitement my husband wanted to tell everyone. I had my reserves and wanted to stick to our plan but he was so excited I wanted to give him this.

It has now been 3 days, 3 DAYS since we told everyone and half liked it and half didn't. Now a family member isn't talking to us because of it.

So I have to ask is Sebastian really that bad? Isn't this our child?

g8trkim

Seriously... people are mad about Sebastian? Sounds like a family member you could do without. Seems pretty clear why you didn't want to tell people.

I think it's a nice name. Good choice!

Blueyed228

ginger0825:

So about 2 months ago when we found out we were having a boy my husband and I decided not to tell anyone the name we picked out. Family and friends were making clear which names they like and don't like.

Well now we finally set on a name and in our excitement my husband wanted to tell everyone. I has my reserves and wanted to stick to our plan but he was so excited I wanted to give him this.

It has now been 3 days, 3 DAYS since we told everyone and half liked it and half didn't. Now a family member isn't talking to us because of it.

So I have to ask is Sebastian really that bad? Isn't this our child?

Why? 

ginger0825

They said he is going to be picked on and bullied. I am thinking they are to old school. Its becoming a real issue but we are firm. Sigh, 3 more months of this drama.

TheWop

Blueyed228:

ginger0825:

So about 2 months ago when we found out we were having a boy my husband and I decided not to tell anyone the name we picked out. Family and friends were making clear which names they like and don't like.

Well now we finally set on a name and in our excitement my husband wanted to tell everyone. I has my reserves and wanted to stick to our plan but he was so excited I wanted to give him this.

It has now been 3 days, 3 DAYS since we told everyone and half liked it and half didn't. Now a family member isn't talking to us because of it.

So I have to ask is Sebastian really that bad? Isn't this our child?

Why? 

Yeah why are they not talking to you?  Tell them to grow up.  Seriously.  Sebastian is totally fine.  NMS, but I wouldn't side-eye anyone for it.  And yes it is your child, and your life  so if you like it, go for it.  

jelina

Well since you asked, I know two Sebastians and both flat our refuse to be called by their name (both are under 20) and go by other names and think they have the worst names ever. I'm not sure if teasing is an issue but both are horrified when someone finds out their real name. I'm not totally sure why. Just their opinion.

 

Blueyed228

Its NMS (reminds me of Neverending Story), but thats stupid that they are not going to talk to you because of it.

HannahO28

I'm not a Sebastian fan, but no...its not bad. Your family is being absolutely ridiculous and childish. 

MicahBaviere

ginger0825:

They said he is going to be picked on and bullied. I am thinking they are to old school. Its becoming a real issue but we are firm. Sigh, 3 more months of this drama.

Unless the angry family member is one who's going to do the bullying, I'd say write him (her?) off and call it a day. Sebastian is a great name. You love it and that's what counts. If you get tired of people giving you their opinions on it, you may have to forcefully remind them that it is in fact YOUR child and not theirs, and frankly they don't a darn say in anything concerning him.  (Of course, this may lead to more relatives not talking to you... which in your case sounds like not a bad plan...)

AlphabetFish

No family member has a right to try to name your child for you, or to get huffy when you don't go along with them.

Sebastian is a perfectly lovely name, and it's no one's decision but yours and your husband's. The family member who won't speak to you is the one who is in the wrong. Stick to your guns, pick the name you love. They'll come around--and if they don't, it's on them for ending the relationship for such a petty reason.

ten17

HannahO28:

I'm not a Sebastian fan, but no...its not bad. Your family is being absolutely ridiculous and childish. 

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stahlop

I love Sebastian.  If it didn't sound so horrible with our last name it would be one of my top names.  I think your relative is being dumb.

ginger0825

Thanks all for your encouragement. Your words really do help.

moonfaerie

g8trkim:

Seriously... people are mad about Sebastian? Sounds like a family member you could do without. Seems pretty clear why you didn't want to tell people.

I think it's a nice name. Good choice!

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Aligator28

I love the name. 

The family will get over it. 

guilletskichuk

AlphabetFish:

No family member has a right to try to name your child for you, or to get huffy when you don't go along with them.

Sebastian is a perfectly lovely name, and it's no one's decision but yours and your husband's. The family member who won't speak to you is the one who is in the wrong. Stick to your guns, pick the name you love. They'll come around--and if they don't, it's on them for ending the relationship for such a petty reason.

Couldn't have said it better!

Jessica1977

AlphabetFish:

No family member has a right to try to name your child for you, or to get huffy when you don't go along with them.

Sebastian is a perfectly lovely name, and it's no one's decision but yours and your husband's. The family member who won't speak to you is the one who is in the wrong. Stick to your guns, pick the name you love. They'll come around--and if they don't, it's on them for ending the relationship for such a petty reason.

My grandmother apparently did the same thing to my parents when they named my brother Zachary.  Said that he would be teased & picked on his whole life, etc.  My parents stuck to their name choice and my grandmother got herself over it.

GL!

That.Just.Happened

Sebastian is one of my very favorites!  

Stick to your guns. It's your kids, don't listen to the haters.