Would you offer to throw a shower?

Rhianna1981

I have a friend/ acquaintance whose baby is due 2 weeks before mine (mid-June). As far as I know, no one has offered to throw her a baby shower, and I feel a bit bad because I will be inviting her to mine, along with some mutual friends/ acquaintances. I am considering offering to throw her a shower, but the only time that I would be able to do it would be in early June, and she is due in mid-June. I am not sure if I should even offer because of the following concerns-

(a) I will be 3-4 weeks from MY due date. I am not sure how people feel at this time in their pregnancies, since this is my first pregnancy. Do you think that I'd feel up to it?

(b) She will be 2 weeks from HER due date. I am not sure if she will feel up to it, and I suppose she could have even had her baby by then.

What would you do?

Thank you! 

selinda85

I think you are a very thoughtful friend for wanting to do this however your right your not really sure what may happen in that time frame.. With my first the last two weeks i was put on bed rest and didnt get to do anything. So you never know if you will go early or late, her included. I also have a friend from work she is due 2 days after me and i know work is gonna want to do something for both of us at the same but they would have to due it early just in case i have a repeat.. Hope this helps maybe see if any mutual friends want to help you out that way its not all on you..

Rhianna1981

That's kind of what I was thinking- timing wise, it is cutting it close for both of us. I think that it is a great idea to offer to take her to lunch...

NerdyMama2

I wouldn't throw a baby shower that far into her pregnancy.

judahsmommy1

Do you have a mutual friend who you could talk to about this situation? Ask if that mutual friend would be open to co-hosting. You can get a lot of the leg work done well before the shower and see if the mutual friend would be willing to host it at her home/take care of the final details. That way if you go into labor or are really tired, you have someone who can take over for you.

Rhianna1981

judahsmommy1:

Do you have a mutual friend who you could talk to about this situation? Ask if that mutual friend would be open to co-hosting. You can get a lot of the leg work done well before the shower and see if the mutual friend would be willing to host it at her home/take care of the final details. That way if you go into labor or are really tired, you have someone who can take over for you.

Ugg. I am afraid not- she doesn't have many friends because she can be rather high-strung and odd. I think that closer to our due dates I will just take her out to lunch and buy her a sweet baby gift.  

MrsJax2011

Rhianna1981:

judahsmommy1:

Do you have a mutual friend who you could talk to about this situation? Ask if that mutual friend would be open to co-hosting. You can get a lot of the leg work done well before the shower and see if the mutual friend would be willing to host it at her home/take care of the final details. That way if you go into labor or are really tired, you have someone who can take over for you.

Ugg. I am afraid not- she doesn't have many friends because she can be rather high-strung and odd. I think that closer to our due dates I will just take her out to lunch and buy her a sweet baby gift.  

What about the mutual friends/acquaintances you mentioned in your OP?  Or, try to get her husband on the phone and ask for her sisters/his mom or sisters info, and call to offer your help for the shower you are assuming they would be throwing her?  You could even do a little fishing around your office and try to get contact info for her mom and see if anyone has started planning yet...