Comments about baby to new FTM

Alliebooberz

I think I'm doing pretty well transitioning to being a mom but one of the things I'm having the most difficulty with is all the stupid comments!! 

My Son looks shockingly like me, he has my husband's hands and feet, but his face is 99% me. It's pretty much undeniable. But for some reason the comments that annoy me is that each grandma and great grandma feels the need to comment about who they are related to that they think he looks like besides my husband and I.

No great grandma, his eyelashes aren't strawberry blonde and no, he did not get that from your sister.

Any advice for an annoyed FTM whose patience is wearing thin? I know this is a really petty silly thing to get annoyed about but I don't know how to deal. It's like my one irrational annoyance!  

susanmosley

People say a lot of dumb sh!t about babies....and unfortunateky kids. It isn't going to end anytime soon. Seriously, people just like to hear themselves talk. Just let them entertain themselves. My tactic is instead of getting annoyed, I've learned how to laugh at them in my head. It's almost as though I'm playing a game by myself, trying to see who will say the most ridiculous thing. Laugh it off because like I said, it isn't stopping anytime in your near future. And you sons eyelashes do look like your great grandmas sisters...identical! .I'm just sayin'

CocoBrynne

First off he is adorable!  Second, I am the same way, my son is my clone, he looks very little like my DH so I know what you mean.  My  IL's and I don't get along to begin with so I swear it almost irritates them that he looks so much like me, idk for sure, but that's my suspicion at least   Just be happy and ignore the stupid comments.

McAllie5

It will pass. And/or you'll grow thicker skin. It does bug me when MIL says stuff like that about DS, but as he's getting older and doing more things on his own, there's more to remark about. In the beginning before he was doing much of anything, all someone can say is how cute they are and describe their looks.

It's common, don't sweat it. But I understand, it is annoying.  

sophie206

Haha -  still resent this friend of my Mom's who said to me "Oooh look at her elfish little features!" Arghhhh! I would take Aunt Joan's strawberry blonde eyelashes to that! LOL

BananaBlitz

It never ends. DD is H's clone. My brother once looked at her, then yelled out "well, we know who the father is!" Sigh.

HarrietNJMommy

You'll have to just develop thicker skin. These comments don't stop.

I would just smile and nod. 

wifeandmama

Just let it go and get used to it.. .the comments only continue! (And get worse in some situations, like when people insult your parenting!)

danienross

wifeandmama:

Just let it go and get used to it.. .the comments only continue! (And get worse in some situations, like when people insult your parenting!)

This!  I'd love it if people only commented on DD's looks.  My father loves to insult me and my parenting and try to dictate how I do every little thing.  I'm still amazed I haven't killed him.

MrsRoy07

Well if nothing else, you have all of us to commiserate with. My MIL is constantly talking about my DD's long fingers and how she DEFINITELY got them from grandma. Hm well let's see- I'm pretty sure odds are if she got them from anyone, it's her MOTHER, who also happens to have long fingers. But whatever. People just like to feel like they're a part of the baby, learn to laugh it off!

ValentineMommy

I have brown eyes, DH has blue and DD has brown.  MIL insisted (and told other people) that DD's brown eyes came from her.  Really?  Because your son has blue which means you passed down blue to him and he passed down blue to DD.  Those gorgeous brown eyes come from ME!  She also thought DD's eyes (not the color) came from DH's cousin and her skin tone was from MIL and BIL.  Nothing about DD comes from me apparently.  I'm not expecting those kinds of comments to stop. 

AmyNicole622

My grandmother tops that. She swears DS looks exactly like my dad...the dad that adopted me....the father with no blood relation. All you can do is laugh and nod your head.

trizzie

Well, #1 you still have a lot of post-partum hormones going on and that has a huge impact. That said, it is totally annoying and I'll never end. But, you will learn to smile and nod and roll your eyes later. Every time MIL is around I hear how both my kids look and act just like DH. I especially love it when there are conflicting personality traits that are still miraculously just like DH .

melissa0726

I'm SO relieved to hear that I'm not the only person that gets bugged by this!!!  I thought I was just being oversensitive!  If I have to hear one more time, "she gets that from her Daddy" I think I will shoot myself.  And it's not just about looks it's all the developmental milestones, too, everything is compared. 

I know MIL is mostly just trying to relate her experiences, but sometimes it can be hurtful and make me feel like any of the genes I passed to DD are inferior. I've mostly learned to ignore the comments and try to laugh with DH about it after she leaves, but it is still annoying!