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5sgarcia

Hello, I am new here.  I am looking for a supportive group to chat with.  

About myself, I am a 35...almost 36 (yikes!) SAHM who is 26 weeks pregnant with twins.  They are fraternal (boy/girl) and conceived naturally. I have 3 other children,  a step daughter who is almost 6, a daughter who is 5 and a son who is 2.  I have a wonderful supportive husband who works 12 hour nights.  He is great with the kids (100% hands on) but, awful at helping keep the house clean.  Normally that isn't a big deal but, I really could use the help right now.  I am so scared and overwhelmed right now.  I know a lot of it has to do with hormones but I am also not a FTM and know whats in store for me!  I hope to meet some great people here and find out some helpful information on how to raise multiples AND a large family.

Thanks  

besu-chan

Welcome and congrats! I know what you mean about the housework- 26 weeks is definitely when it starts to get challenging to get around and do anything productive! I hope you can get some help with that, whether it's from your husband or someone else (maybe another relative? or could you consider hiring someone just to come a few times?). I hope you have a smooth ending to your pregnancy and enjoy your two new LO when they arrive- it's crazy but tons of fun!

**A friendly word of caution: you will find that people prefer the word "spontaneous" to "natural" when talking about how you conceived your babies. Not a big deal but something to keep in mind for the future

Long=journey

Congrats on the twins.  Hopefully you can figure out a system that works for everyone for house chores.  I have 2 kids already and a husband that works crazy long hours, so it's always a crazy balancing act!

MrsOjoButtons

Welcome.

My circumstances are different, but I hired someone to come in and do the mopping and scrubbing every week and plan to keep her around until my babies are at least six months old and I have my wits about me again.  If there's any way you can swing that financially, or do a kid swap with a friend so you each have a few kid-less hours to tidy up and catch up on errands in peace, I really think it would save your sanity.  It's definitely an added expense we weren't really planning on, but it's short term and much needed for the time being.

MuseumMaven

Welcome and congratulations on your twins!

Around 25 weeks we hired a cleaning lady who comes twice a month.  It's a huge help even now.  If it's in your budget I recommend it!

angelfire02

Congrats and welcome!   I don't have other kids at home but I am a full time (47-50 hours a week) nanny for a family with 5 kids.  I have found that after picking up their house and after their kids all day my house is a disaster!  I had a meltdown about it last week and decided that as long as no one is coming over I'm not going to worry about it as much as I used to.  I am a clean freak by nature (and thanks to my totally neurotic mother   but if I need to sit down at night I'm not going to feel bad about the floors needing to be mopped.  I have also found that if I do need to get something done cleaning wise if I do it first thing in the morning I am a lot more productive.  And about the friendly warning about using "natural" vs. "spontaneous", she's serious.  I learned that one the hard way!!!   Congrats again!