I am usually a lurker, very occasional post on working moms but I am really struggling to find some insight or answers to what is going on with my six year old.
Normally he is a very quiet shy little boy, six years old. Very well behaved and I have gotten many a compliment on how well behaved he is.
The problem is his extreme reaction to when he is corrected. He has always reacted very strongly to being corrected by myself or his father. Would cry, say he does not like himself etc. This has gotten worse over the years in terms of the strength of his reaction. Typcailly not a huge issue I guess for us since it is rare that we need to tell him about misbehaving. This week however there were two incidents. One where my husband corrected him. DH was very calm, explained that he was not mad but that what he did was not safe, etc. My son screamed, cried, said he wanted to run away. tried to leave our house and said he wished he was not born. Eventually he calmed down but we could not have a rationale conversation with him about the incident.
The other incident was today at the sitters (who has never had an issue with him ever, even in discipline and correcting him, usually he just listens to her). he and her son were playing around (sort of wrestling) but he was being inappropriate in how he was carrying one (pretending to hit him in the groin area (oh my ). So she took him to the other room and spoke to him. He lost his mind, crying screaming, ran out of the house with no shoes or coat on and said he did not want to go to her house any more. She had to drag him back inside. She sat him down and in about 2 minutes he calmed down. He asked her not to tell us about what happened and that he was sorry.
So if you have followed me so far. What can I do? if I try and bring it he will likely lose it and we won't be able to have a sensible conversation. What could be causing such an extreme reaction? I wouldn't think our reaction would warrent getting so upset, we don't yell or scream. very calm and rationale. Nothing that should cause sobbing, crying and trying to run away or saying that he hates himself. I am really worried about him . And how can I talk with him and correct his behaviour if he reacts this way?