Daycare parade was a total disaster :(

mrshutch

So, I stopped by for the toddler room's Halloween parade this morning. We had all rec'd a notice about a little parade through the center w/ treats after. I thought there would be a bunch of parents, kids would do a little walk in costumes, then we'd play w/ kids in the room for a minute while they had treats. There was only 1 other mom, Taylor still refused to put on the Elmo costume (that she picked out) and cried when I wouldn't pick her up. So she stayed just in her Halloween t-shirt (back-up costume), wouldn't join the kids on the carpet for an adorable picture, had me carry her around behind the class, and then cried again when I was leaving. I was the only parent who brought treats (just some fruit snacks that they might eat later) and I left w/ my tail b/w my legs.Lesson learned- I'm not doing any "classroom parties" until she's like 4.

 

This is the day after the teacher said that DD is screaming, rather than using words like stop and no, or occasionally pushing kids if they're doing something she doesn't like (we've been working on this at home anyway). I have my own little Halloween monster. And with the costumes, none of the other kids were upset about wearing them. This was so depressing. If the party at our friends' this afternoon isn't fun I just might cry!

JulieandBen

Give yourself a break. Your little girl is only one. It's expected that she'll act this way. I'm sure a few of the other kids would too if their parents had gone to the parade.

(I am pretty sure my two year old is the only one in his class refusing to wear his costume today.)

mrshutch

I think I'm just mad at myself for going- I had a faint glimmer of hope that she might have fun w/ me there- so hopefully in her mind she was actually happy to see me. It's hard b/c I was an elem teacher so I have a horribly unrealistic picture of what a "party" would look like in a toddler room!

dnagal

Easy on yourself!  It'll get easier and more fun as she gets older, and will REALLY want you there next year!  SOunds like teh other mommies are not with it for that class (or too busy to take time off for the daycare party)

I missed DD"s party yesterday,and I'm still sad about it!  I love seeing her and her classmates all dressed up! 

lldags

Aw, don't worry about it!!!  I dind't go for that very reason, I was afraid he would see me and cry so I think that is normal behavior.  My husband did go and I asked how it went, his exact words back "He saw me though. When he saw me, he got all mad and threw his cracker bag at the kid next to him."  Nice, huh?  So you're not alone.  I am sure she cried and acted up more b/c you were there and she wanted you to be with her, that is completely normal!!!  I think they are too young to really undeerstand things like this at that age....Don't be hard on yourself!!!!

molldoll71

Oh no - the sotume thing is so hit or miss at this age.  And it will change from one day to the next.  I wouldn't even thing twice about it.  I also think the change in routine - having mommy come to school can really screw them up too. This is such a hard age - they have a hard time communicating, no impulse control.  I agree don't be so hard on yourself.

Pesky

Don't worry!!  It's pretty overwhelming for that age.  I carried DD for her Halloween parade at daycare and I could tell she was still pretty overwhelmed.  Even just being in the room with us and all the other parents was a bit much for most of them.  On the plus side, I'm betting they all slept great at naptime!!!

HarrietNJMommy

I would relax about the whole thing. It's a phase. DD#1 really didn't want to wear her costume last year. We fought about it and I FORCED her to wear it. It was an awful experience and VERY tiring.

This year, she LOVED LOVED LOVED her costume, and so did DD#2. It depends on the age and the personality.

I'm sure you'll be fine next year.?

jen5-03

Aww! Hope you had fun at your afternoon party!

I think part of the problem is that seeing mom = going home.

DH had to take up DD's blanket last week when I forgot it, she was happy to see him and then screamed bloody murder when she realized he was leaving her there.

marchbaby

My son had his halloween parade and sing along.  My husband left work to go see it, and I got my mom to watch my youngest son so we could focus on him and get good pics.  Well he paraded around the room once, then saw me, ran to me and would not let go.  No more parading, no songs, and no cute class photo  

 

bridetobe0jb

don't feel so bad.  I stressed about trying to get off work, but when we tried the costume on the night before and she had a meltdown, I realized me going to the parade would be more troublesome for her, especially when it was time for me to go back to work.  DD was a lot better with her costume that night but only due to distraction of going outside, etc.