Introduction

nikkilyn35

Hi, my name is Nikki, new to the The Bump.  I am single mother of an almost 2 year old boy.

 I am the only single parent in my group of friends with kids, so sometimes it can be hard to relate.

 I don't have a lot of drama with my son's father.  It started as a sticky situation, but we do talk often, he does pay child support, so I'm lucky in those regards. My only real issues is the fact that he lives in another state, has yet to meet his son, though a first visit is pending.  So navigating long distance co-parenting is going to be an obstacle in the future.

 I work full time and going back to school starting this summer.  Socializing in the real world might get kind of hard to juggle, so looking for a nice supportive place to visit online. 

achase123

Welcome.  What kind of visitation is your ex looking at getting?

nikkilyn35

We really have no visitation planned out at this point.  There's been two planned visits back here to our home state of Missouri, but both times those have been cancelled.  All of his family lives here, including his older son from a previous marriage.

He is planning a visit in May for his son's graduation, and that will be his first time meeting our son.  I was alone through the pregnancy, alone at the hospital for the delivery.  He didn't take part in any of that, but he is making an effort now, and even though he still does and says some really stupid things, I'm trying to keep an open mind.

 all we have really discussed is each year we switch off who goes where, until our son is old enough, then he can spend summers with his dad.  of course, that all could change at any time.

 does anyone else have experience in long distance co-parenting?  How does a father even bond with his child with such limited access?