Newly single

MrsS10/20

My husband of 5 years left me last week. I am pregnant with our 2nd (12 weeks) and we have a 2 year old. I am so devastated by all of this. I never thought I would be in this position.

achase123

I'm so sorry.  You are in the right place.  What were your reasons for splitting up?

expectingnothing

I'm sorry... and welcome.  No one ever gets married with the belief it will end in divorce.  The state of shock you are in right now is normal.  I was with my H from age 18-32 so I can empathize with you.  You are in the right place and you'll see many of us have gone through what you are going through and are thriving now.

MrsS10/20

We are splitting up because my H feels like we have not been communicating well and our relationship has not been good for 2 years. He feels like he has been the only one trying and now that I am willing to try, he is not. I feel like our relationship has changed in the last 2 yrs, since we had our daughter. But I did not think it was on the brink of ending.  He never voiced his thought of divorce until about 2 months ago. It broke me, and then he said he was willing to stick around, but that only lasted not even a week. And I feel like his behavior did not change, he was acting mean and bitter toward me and not seeming to be willing to work on it. I also got out phone records and he had been texting a lady he works with for a few months. They had hundreds of text btwn the 2 of them. He says they are just friends, but it is difficult to believe. 

Thank you for the welcome and support. I appreciate all the support I can get. 

Eveamlizya

You aren't alone...I'm in a very similar situation.  My husband decided that, after a year of marriage and trying to get pregnant, he didn't want any of it.  He also had been messaging a girl behind my back while I was pregnant (and even thought I was having a miscarriage).  He also, all the sudden, started talking down to me and being bitter and unreasonable.  The number one thing to remember is to trust your gut...don't believe a thing he says just because you want to believe him.  I have figured out that some guys will say or do anything to get you to agree to things that will just make it easier for them (like paying less child support) or just make things harder for you.  Don't let him make you feel bad, even though it's hard I know...you just have to take care of yourself and your LO.  The grieving time will pass and you'll become a newer and better person because of it.  What doesn't kill you WILL make you stronger.

mamastich

Its crappy all around.

My H left me when LO was 6 weeks old and I found out hed been cheating for months and I had to sell everything I owned and move across the country alone with a baby and dog. This board has supportive women and they know their stuff, theres a light at the end.