"SAHM" Rocks Stamp in siggs

christinbeatrice

I just saw one of these in someone's sigg. Maybe I'm battling anxiety of a week from now when I go back to work, but it broke my heart & I started bawling (I'm not battling PP).

I feel like it's a very snubbing type stamp, "rubbing it in my face", nose in the air - type statement.

Do people look down at SAHM's? I would never think people would, but that stamp implies that people do.

 Just curious, the stamp annoyed me because I feel like it's a slap in the face. Yeah you rock, I'd love to be in your shoes, but my husband is a firefighter & that doesn't make much where we live, so I have to teach (I love teaching, but MUCH rather raise my baby).

Lena122

There's a stamp for everything, including working moms, so don't take it personally. There are a lot of people who look down on SAHMs just like there are a lot of people who look down on WMs. Sometimes I feel like the EBF stamps rub it in my face that I couldn't do it but in reality we do what we have to for our kids and we should be proud of that. 

katie4253

There are badges for everything.  It is not a commentary on your decision to work. 

Spenjamins

christinbeatrice:

I just saw one of these in someone's sigg. Maybe I'm battling anxiety of a week from now when I go back to work, but it broke my heart & I started bawling (I'm not battling PP).

I feel like it's a very snubbing type stamp, "rubbing it in my face", nose in the air - type statement.

Do people look down at SAHM's? I would never think people would, but that stamp implies that people do.

 Just curious, the stamp annoyed me because I feel like it's a slap in the face. Yeah you rock, I'd love to be in your shoes, but my husband is a firefighter & that doesn't make much where we live, so I have to teach (I love teaching, but MUCH rather raise my baby).

Why don't you get a stamp that says "I wish I was a SAHM because WMs don't RAISE their children"?

Speaking of slapping it in people's faces....take a look at yourself.

christinbeatrice

Yeah, I think I was just having a moment. My DH is working & my LO has been sleeping for an hour & half in his bassinet (I have two hands, WOOHOO), so I've spent to much time on TB tonight & some silly reason it just got to me.

christinbeatrice

Spenjamins:

christinbeatrice:

I just saw one of these in someone's sigg. Maybe I'm battling anxiety of a week from now when I go back to work, but it broke my heart & I started bawling (I'm not battling PP).

I feel like it's a very snubbing type stamp, "rubbing it in my face", nose in the air - type statement.

Do people look down at SAHM's? I would never think people would, but that stamp implies that people do.

 Just curious, the stamp annoyed me because I feel like it's a slap in the face. Yeah you rock, I'd love to be in your shoes, but my husband is a firefighter & that doesn't make much where we live, so I have to teach (I love teaching, but MUCH rather raise my baby).

Why don't you get a stamp that says "I wish I was a SAHM because WMs don't RAISE their children"?

 

Speaking of slapping it in people's faces....take a look at yourself.

Maybe that's why I'm having difficulties with, I am not there yet (I have one week until I go back to work & I'm so scared about it).  I feel like I barely know my LO & now he's going to be in the care of someone else, & SHE'S going to be getting to know him & what if they get to know each other better. I barely know is cues & now my time with him is going to be so much less & fall even further behind trying to figure it all out. 

I understand what you mean, I phrased it COMPLETELY wrong.  I should have said (I love teaching, but I'd MUCH rather stay at home with my baby). Sorry!

AsOctoberFalls

As others have said, they have a stamp for everything. Don't take it personally. Some people have like 6 of then in their sig. To me they make people seem insecure.

About knowing your child...don't worry. My DS is in daycare at least 10 hours/day, and he definitely knows who his mommy is. He absolutely lights up when I walk into the room to pick him up.

I do get down about it sometimes, but you have to look st results. DS is well adjusted, has MANY people who love him, and he's been exposed to more than I could ever give him by myself. Daycare isn't evil! His teachers will love him, he will love then, but he will love his parents best of all. 

Ecy

I had a miserable time leaving DD at DC in the beginning. I couldn't keep my mind on work (I'm a teacher also) and thought of every possible way I could get rich quick!

As long as you are happy with your DC choice, it shouldn't take long until you start to feel ok about being back at work and then before you know it, you are actually enjoying it. Now that DD is older, I can see how many wonderful things she is learning at DC and how well adjusted she is. Don't make any decisions or judgments in those first few weeks though. They can be tough for some of us. GL and hugs!

thedash

It's going to be OK. Take a deep breath, lurk on this board for a while, and just enjoy the rest of your time off. Everybody has their own struggles and anxieties, whether they work FT, stay home FT, or some other arrangement. Talk to your working mom friends, your DH, or the moms here when you need support. Good luck!

ALY1981

Spenjamins:

christinbeatrice:

I just saw one of these in someone's sigg. Maybe I'm battling anxiety of a week from now when I go back to work, but it broke my heart & I started bawling (I'm not battling PP).

I feel like it's a very snubbing type stamp, "rubbing it in my face", nose in the air - type statement.

Do people look down at SAHM's? I would never think people would, but that stamp implies that people do.

 Just curious, the stamp annoyed me because I feel like it's a slap in the face. Yeah you rock, I'd love to be in your shoes, but my husband is a firefighter & that doesn't make much where we live, so I have to teach (I love teaching, but MUCH rather raise my baby).

Why don't you get a stamp that says "I wish I was a SAHM because WMs don't RAISE their children"?

Speaking of slapping it in people's faces....take a look at yourself.

Really? Kick her while she's down, why don't you?

HeidiP14

I don't think they mean anything by the stamps or any disrespect to rub it in your face. I can understand your thoughts though. I am very jealous of SAHM's! All I have ever really wanted out of life or felt I was born to do was be a mom; not a career person just a love kids type of person. I am still trying to figure a way to be home or nanny or something so I can spend more time with DS. Just enjoy every minute you can with him now and hopefully things wont be that bad when you go back to work. It will be hard! Some people say it gets easier. It does not! Or not for me anyway, I still cry. Luckily he is still at an age where he is happy with whoever he is with; hopefully yours is happy with everyone too. And look at the bright side at least you can be with him during the summer as a teacher.

P.G.&A.M.

I think people just use the stamps to add to their online identity so people know what they're about- working, stay at home, breastfeeding, etc... I don't think any of them are designed to put other moms down. It probably hit you hard due to a combination of hormones and it just feeling like salt in a wound.

LeahCK

I don't think the stamp meant anything. But I have seen both types of moms looked down on by other moms. I've had SAHM's look down at me and I've seen WM's look down on SAHM's. I'm working right now but who knows what the future will bring in a few years.