BM moved and I'm not happy

wwnbw

We moved really close to BM so that our kids could go to school together. DD and SS will both be starting Kinder in the fall. I knew she didn't want them to go to school together and I knew she would move but still it makes me so mad. She sent us her new address yesterday. It's the same school district but his school will be almost 30 minutes away. I have no idea how I am going to get two kids to two different places at the same time and then pick them up. I'm already so stressed out and it's still 5 months away.

FutureMrsWittig

If it's the same district maybe the school offers bus service between schools?  Maybe you can have them both ride the bus after school to a central location? 

I'm sorry, that's so frustrating!

cole2144

If you have a CO doesn`t she have to give notice before moving the child? I know how it is to have a super frustrating BM to deal with. Can I ask though, you say that you knew BM would just move again so why would you go through the trouble of moving so the kids could go to school together, if you knew she would not let that happen? Not trying to be smart just curious.

Holly_1007

if its the same district is SS eligible to go to the other school with dd still? If he Is you bet your butt I would be back in court fighting for them to go to the same school.  especially since it seems like it will be much closer and more convenient. 

BM seriously has THAT bad of insecurity issues that she would MOVE to get out of having your kids (are they half siblings?) go to school together? yikes

and I agree didn't she have to give notice that she was moving??

Sigir

cole2144:

Can I ask though, you say that you knew BM would just move again so why would you go through the trouble of moving so the kids could go to school together, if you knew she would not let that happen? Not trying to be smart just curious.

I was thinking the same thing.  One thing I know about my exh is that he will do anything possible to get under my skin, at the expense of dc.  If I moved to get dc into a certain school, you can bet dollars to donuts exh would be moving as soon as he could just to mess up my plans.  So unless it is something that is protected within our CO, I would never plan for something like this because if so I am just setting us all up for frustration.  

wwnbw

They aren't half siblings just step. I didn't KNOW she would move but I had a feeling. A few years ago I put DD in the same preschool part time and BM was not happy. She ended up pulling SS and letting him stay with her friend. The move was good for us because we like the area and we like the schools here. Older SS (diff BM)  just started MS so it was a good time to move. She has lived here since her and DH split (almost 5 years) so we were just hoping she would stay. She doesn't have to give notice she has the "exculsive right to designate the primary residence of the child within  ___ or ___ County". 

 

Ginlyn0

Our district offers in-district transfers with an application, maybe you could petition to transfer your child to your stepchild's school to make it easier on you, but other than that I don't think there is much you can do.

Holly_1007

wwnbw:

They aren't half siblings just step. I didn't KNOW she would move but I had a feeling. A few years ago I put DD in the same preschool part time and BM was not happy. She ended up pulling SS and letting him stay with her friend. The move was good for us because we like the area and we like the schools here. Older SS (diff BM)  just started MS so it was a good time to move. She has lived here since her and DH split (almost 5 years) so we were just hoping she would stay. She doesn't have to give notice she has the "exculsive right to designate the primary residence of the child within  ___ or ___ County". 

 

does DH/BM have joint legal custody? if so DH has a say in which school SS goes to.  he has every right to petition to have SS go to the other school.  especially since they are in the same districts, since DH lives in the proper disctrict for the school it shouldnt be an issue, but she will fight it and you will need to go back to court, so if its important to you and DH get the ball rolling now.