high needs baby?

Texas77again

what exactly does that mean?  what makes a baby high needs? 

tokenhoser

A baby that just NEEDS someone 24/7, won't be put down, won't sleep alone, and just generally... has higher needs than the average baby.

I don't have one. I have a rotten sleeper, but he's not really high needs.

StacieJane

From day one until now, my daughter has fit every single one of these descriptors: https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/fussy-baby/high-need-baby/12-features-high-need-baby

It was so exhausting. For the first eight or nine months of her life, I was so drained and always wondering, "What am I doing wrong?" I didn't ever plan on "attachment parenting." I ended up here by way of survival.

Now that I have my son, who is much more "normal," I can see that I wasn't making up how HARD my daughter was/is, and I'm releasing the fear/guilt of "I must have made her like this."

RnMom2Be

In one word......colic (at least with my first son!)

3003girl

StacieJane:

From day one until now, my daughter has fit every single one of these descriptors: https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/fussy-baby/high-need-baby/12-features-high-need-baby

It was so exhausting. For the first eight or nine months of her life, I was so drained and always wondering, "What am I doing wrong?" I didn't ever plan on "attachment parenting." I ended up here by way of survival.

Now that I have my son, who is much more "normal," I can see that I wasn't making up how HARD my daughter was/is, and I'm releasing the fear/guilt of "I must have made her like this."

My Kiddo fits 10 of the 12. Being the first, I didn't know what to expect and around month 2 I was thinking I was going crazy. It was so freakin' hard and a full time job for both me and DH. One of us had to be constantly attending to her for the first 4-5 months. And by constant I mean we were lucky if she would sit in a swing or bouncy or anything besides our arms for 5 minutes. 

For us, it got better once she started to crawl at 5.5 months and was able to explore a bit. Hang in there.  

etoyama

StacieJane:

From day one until now, my daughter has fit every single one of these descriptors: https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/fussy-baby/high-need-baby/12-features-high-need-baby

It was so exhausting. For the first eight or nine months of her life, I was so drained and always wondering, "What am I doing wrong?" I didn't ever plan on "attachment parenting." I ended up here by way of survival.

Now that I have my son, who is much more "normal," I can see that I wasn't making up how HARD my daughter was/is, and I'm releasing the fear/guilt of "I must have made her like this."

This link explains it all. I have a high need baby. It's exhausting and wonderful

StacieJane

RnMom2Be:

In one word......colic (at least with my first son!)

Except that colic should go away by month three or so. High needs babies become high needs toddlers who become high needs children ... and so on.