Question about moving

chefnicole22

I am moving to another state in two weeks and I was wondering if i need to tell the father of my baby. I am only 15 weeks pregnant and he has not been helpful at all. He actually just shut off the utilities in my home because he is mad we do not talk that much (they were in his name because he used to live there, but when we broke up he moved out). I could not afford to turn all of them back on, so I went to stay with family, and now I have a chance to move, where I have most of my family, and a new job waiting. I would really rather not have him involved at all, and I was wondering if I move and do not tell him, and he tries to get custody, will it hurt me to not tell him where I live?

cemacmil

If you are not married and paternity has not been proven, then no - legally you do not have to tell him. Although if you have any hint that he would ever be involved or take you to court or if you ever try and get CS from him I would inform him that you have moved at some point before the baby gets here. In no way do you have to give him your actually address though.

And as awful as this sounds - a lot of states look at things as "no outside baby, no issues yet" type of thing meaning right now it is you, your body, and your health. I am just stating a fact from my state - not bringing up any life issues or anything. It was always my decision whether to have XH at my pre-natal appts or not (even though we weren't legally divorced yet) because the state looked at it that way, for example.

Plus you are moving to where a support system (family) are as well as a new job, so it is not like you won't have good reasoning if anything is ever brought up in court.

fauxshelley

Your XBF cannot stop you from moving.  There is no baby involved yet, and you should be where ever you have the most support from friends and family.  Good luck on your move!

mdotm0904

MOVE NOW!!! Jurisdiction will more than likely fall under the county where the baby is born, so for custody stuff he'd have to file where you live (I think, I'm not a lawyer, nor do I play one on tv, so I could be wrong). But don't wait any longer, move and be with your family.

Best of luck.