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Help needed for a university project
Hi!
I'm a university student in the UK doing a project about same sex families for my anthropology course. As anthropology's aim in general is to study human interaction and to learn to understand people from their own perspective - thus in my project, I'm trying to see family structures in families where there are two mothers or two fathers instead of having one of each, and how or if they differ from other family structures. It would be of great help if you could answer a few questions either by replying to this post or sending me a private message.
1. Your age range: under 20, 20-29, 30-39, 40-49, over 50
2. What method are you using/considering/have used to have children? (ie. conceiving, adoption, fostering) Did you consider other ways?
3. Why did you choose this particular method? Why did you prefer it to the others?
Thank you!
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Re: Help needed for a university project
1. My partner and I are both 30-39
2. We will be using articificial insemination to conceive. I will carry.
3. I very much want the experience of being pregnant. Also, we looked at cost fo r all options, and conceiving a child of our own, provided there are no infertility complications, is the most affordable option for us.
1. Your age range: under 20, 20-29, 30-39, 40-49, over 50
Now 30-39 (but was 20-29 when we started TTC)
2. What method are you using/considering/have used to have children? (ie. conceiving, adoption, fostering) Did you consider other ways?
Conceiving with IUIs. No, we really didn't explore other options.
3. Why did you choose this particular method? Why did you prefer it to the others?
We wanted a baby. We wanted to experience pregnancy. I don't have the emotional fortitude to foster/adopt.
This is us as well.
1. 30-39 (both parties)
2. We are conceiving. Possibly both of us eventually, but her for now.
3. Two reasons. We wanted to have a pregnancy, to live that experience together. We were also interested in adopting or fostering but it's impossible for us since gay marriage isn't a basis for a green card in this country. My partner won't be eligible for permanent residency status until she graduates and has been working on a different type of visa for 5 years. I can second parent adopt her child--she can't do anything but conceive if she wants a child. Our options are limited. When it's my turn, we'll have to see what the options are.
1. We're both 20-29.
2. We are in the process of trying to conceive with IUI and an anonymous (technically open-id/willing to be known) sperm donor. I have learned about other ways, but I think we've always known this was our path if we were having children together.
3. You have the most control and the least cost. We want to experience pregnancy and infancy, and we want to know that our child is legally ours from birth. Adoption is expensive (domestic or international) and foster/adopt is likely to involve older kids and involve a lot of lack of control and uncertainty.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
1. We are both 30-39.
2. I conceived my first DD with a man and we are adopting the rest of our children through foster care.
3. We chose to adopt through foster care because it made the most sense financially and it felt right to help children who needed the stability we could offer. I would have liked to have another pregnancy but we decided that if we couldn't conceive by the time I turned 30 than we wouldn't pursue that avenue. Building our family through fost/adopt is definitely a challenge but we prefer it to traditional domestic adoption because we can adopt slighly older children and toddlers.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
1. 30-39 (both)
2. We tried IUI with donor sperm, but were finally successful with IVF. I carried.
3. I have always wanted the experience of being pregnant, and we wanted to experience it together. My wife has no desire to be pregnant, so we always knew I would carry all of our children.
2. Method we are using/considering/have used to have children: Conceiving via alternative insemnation. I will carry. We have discussed fostering, but that wouldn't be for a number of years.
3. We chose this particular method and prefer it to others because I have always wanted to be pregnant, we found a donor that's a good match for my partner, and we will have conception/parenting autonomy.
1. We are the 20-29 age group.
2. We are using artificial insemination with a known donor - I will carry. We will also consider fostering in the future.
3. I want to experience pregnancy and we want a child that will legally be both of ours from birth. Also, within the next ten years or so we hope to begin the fostering classes and begin taking in foster children as well. I was a foster child and I understand the need for caring and stable foster parents.
*DS 6/28/2013*