DH feelings

katlilvoce1

We are going to do our first IUI tomorrow, of course my mind hasn't shut off for days but DH confessed to me through text message today while he is at work that he is soooooo scared that this isn't going to work.

Honestly, I didn't know what to say...I told him that I also am worried but praying all the time that the IUI itself won't hurt and hopefully my cervix will be good to us and that our 2ww is going to be really long.

Just needed to put my thoughts out there, I often see what we as ladies are thinking and feeling but DH's have the same feelings we do I'm glad that Tim is deciding that it's ok to share his fears and feelings with me. But it's hard when I'm not sure what to say to him, guess I know where he's coming from now when he doesn't know how to make me feel better. 

Mitzi Bishi

Well... you don't really know until you try. At this point you can stay hopeful, because there's nothing to prove you otherwise. Many of us are a bit jaded after several failed IVFs, so I am trying my best not to overwhelm you with how it feels if it doesn't work. I hope for you that it does. 

It is scary and it is a lot to go through, but at least there are still other options. 

Frankly, it's out of your hands. You can only do so much, so be happy you're doing what you can and that you have a supportive husband!  

katlilvoce1

thanks mitzi for putting it into prospective. thanks for being a good friend.

angela2004

{{HUGS}} The first IUI is a scary time for both of you. Only you really know what to say to your DH. I know my DH and always tried to remain positive. GL!

sekura

I don't want to bring you down, just to set your expectations realistically.  The general rate of IUI success in infertile couples is between 10-20%.  So while this IUI may be successful, it very possibly will not be.  That's no reason not to do it--for most infertiles, you've got maybe 0.5% chance of success per cycle naturally, so 10-20% is a HUGE improvement, and is comparatively much less expensive than IVF.  But don't think that an IUI will be a miracle cure (or IVF, for that matter).

orchid32

It always made me feel better when DH told me he was scared, because I really felt that he was "in it" with me, and he was able to understand my fears, too.