s/o boys and girls...what did/do you want #2 to be?

Mella&T

If you could choose, what gender would #2 be (or did you have a preference before having #2? No judging, since it's totally natural to want one or the other).

Before having Bailey I didn't understand how people could say "I don't care what I have" but once I got pregnant, I understood the "just wanting a healthy baby" mentality. Now having her, I have SUCH a strong desire to have another girl. Since we're only having two, I would love Bailey to have the opportunity have a sister. I know sisters don't automatically mean best friends, but since I grew up an only child, I have longed for that sisterly bond I'll never have. I'd love that for her. I imagine though, once I am pregnant again I'll be back in the "I don't care as long as it's healthy" camp, but for now if I am being honest, I want another girl.

TriciaandSean

We only plan on having two.  For the same reason you mention above it would be fun to have another boy, plus it'll probably be cheaper in the clothing department.

Although I'm also curious as to what it would be like to raise a little girl.

I was always a big tom boy as a kid "the son my father never had" so I'm not super into girly stuff but it would still be fun dressing up a little girl.  I'd also think it would be fun to see the protective big brother of a little sis.

So basically either one.  

SarahKate31

Since I previously wanted at least 1 boy and 1 girl, I was afraid when we found out that #1 was a boy that then for #2 I'd *really* want a girl and be disappointed if I had another boy.

But now...I could honestly go either way. Here's the thing. In a perfect world, I'd want another boy, then a girl, for a total of 3. In all likelihood, this is not happening and we will probably only have 1 more. If it's another boy, I will probably feel some slight sadness at the idea of never having a girl, but having all boys appeals to me too so I know I'll be happy either way.

ETA: After #2, I am most likely to be wistful about it (probably) being our last rather than which sex it is, but as you said, feelings change, so who knows.

camdenfaithful

For #2 I really do not care one way or the other.  I'd love for DD to have a little sister (I have 3 and I'm close to all 3 of them) but I know DH also would LOVE a son so part of me hopes he gets that.

weezie825

When I first found out that I was pregnant with #2 I was secretly hoping for another girl.  I have a wonderful relationship with my sister and I would love for Evie to have that kind of special bond.  That being said, from the moment he first flashed us his boy parts I was THRILLED about my son. 

So basically I agree with Mella! 

Mella&T

camdenfaithful:

For #2 I really do not care one way or the other.  I'd love for DD to have a little sister (I have 3 and I'm close to all 3 of them) but I know DH also would LOVE a son so part of me hopes he gets that.

I'm with you on this...DH definitely wants a son and I would love to have a little mini T running around.

We'd be tremendously blessed either way, but if I had the power to choose, we'd have some more pink around here.

2have2hold

MH would love another girl but I'd like a little boy.

jcsntms06

We plan to only have two and I really wanted to have a little boy, but after we found out that #2 was a girl, I'm really excited that Annabelle will have a little sister. I never had a sister (just two brothers) and I always wanted a sister. We know exactly what we are getting ourselves into and I can't wait to be a mother two little girls.

Megcheer2

I want another girl! But would be happy with a boy too, because I think DH would be thrilled with a boy. 

ThePastor'sWife

I didn't care at all for #1 - although I did think that a boy would be awesome bc I knew how much DH wanted a son - and was thrilled w/ our boy.  W/ #2, I mostly wanted a healthy baby, but if I was honest, I really wanted a girl bc I wanted that experience too, of parenting a boy and a girl. On the flip side, I would have been equally thrilled w/ another boy bc of how close in age my 2 are, so a brother would have been fun for DS. 

I have to admit, when Ally was born and DH announced it was a girl, I was OVER. THE. MOON. excited. I still can't quite believe I have a daughter now too.  

mrsbecky07

I think we want 3 but honestly any combination works for me.  I would like a girl for a second one I think mainly bc my bond with my brothers is infinitely more special than my non-existent bond with my sister (we were never close or sisterly, even pre-mental illness and general craziness) but I love love love having older brothers and would love to have a daughter with an older brother.  

But I also think two or three boys would be super fun. I look at my brothers and their bond with each other is so unique (they are only 14 months apart) and they are so close but at the same time so much their own person....they can go with seeing each other maybe twice or three times a year and they still get each other completely. It's pretty cool to see, I'm not sure they even realize it. So I'd be excited about having a second boy (or having three boys) to see that bond develop. But then I feel guilty about expecting to see that bond since, like I said above, my sister and I have zero bond (and my mom had zero bond really with her sister until they were in their early 40s/late 30s.)  so i don't assume that sister will have this automatic bond but I assume brothers will, which is weird.

Honestly though - and this sounds kind of selfish but whatever - I go back and forth on whether I'd ideally like to have two boys and then a girl, or this boy, a girl and then another boy (or another girl) 1) the first is how I think of my sibling set-up, since my sister isn't really in our lives anymore, but at the same time, 2) I don't want to have two boys, and then get pregnant a third time and hear "dont you hope its a girl this time??" "oh are you trying for a girl?"  because in reality I want 3 kids, not necessarily 2 boys and a daughter, or three boys, or whatever, and if the first two are boys the reasons we would want a third wouldn't be because we wanted a girl, you know?

tmm140

I am all about having another boy if it is in the cards.  The next LO will have to share a room with DS and that would make it a little easier, even when they are older. 

salc21

I definitely wanted a boy, so now that I have him, I'm happy either way I think it would be fun to have a girl and I think DH would love it, but another boy is fine too!

Kaybee44

I went back and forth. I wanted a girl but then I wanted a little brother for B. Turns out she is a bit of a tomboy already and more rough and tumble than he is so it's like having another boy half the time anyway Not that all boys are rough and tumble

I get what you're saying, MrsBecky. I get a lot of "Oh, one of each. Perfect set up! Does that mean you're done having kids?" We are but not because of one of each.  

baclyn02

When I got pregnant with #2 I was hoping for a little girl because I already had a boy. I love my boy-don't get me wrong, but I wanted to do all  the headbands, frills and tutu's as well! 

AKBrideinMD

We think we want three, or maybe even four kids, depending on finances and health...Any truly, any combination would be great. My sister is 16 years younger than me so we don't have that close sister bond, and I would love for Clara to be able to have that. On the other hand, I think growing up w/ brothers helped shape who I was a lot as well and I think it'd be fun to experience being a mom to a boy. DH is such a great "girl" daddy too, I think it'd be fun to see him with a few girls to handle, haha. But I know he'd be a great dad to a son and I'm sure he'd like to have a mini-me. Obviously, I'm undecided!

mdharris29

DH would have loved a house of girls. After we had Michaela, I was torn. Now that we have Daniel, he is my little man and I want him to be my only little man. We really wanted a girl for this 3rd and last child. We got our wish.

kelleymark82606

I only say girl bc I have enough girl clothes to clothe an entire country.  My sisters had girls, so I had their clothes, all the new clothes for my daughter and they are diff seasons, so a variety of sizes for each season.

 I really don't care though.  We most likely won't find out again but that's if we even have another. 

madladybride

If there is #2, I'd like a boy so DH can have a son. However, if we have a girl that would be fine, too. My sister and I have a tenuous relationship - she is 5.5 years older than I am. I love her dearly, but we really aren't very close.