baby shower for baby #2?

PetersonClan02

Do any second time mom's have any input on having a baby shower for the new baby to be? This is my second baby and I have had several coworkers asking me if anyone is having a shower for me.  I haven't had anyone offer so far and I don't think it is expected to have one but it would be nice! I would like to celebrate this baby with some kind of gathering. I don't need anything for this little bundle except the crib (which we have already purchased). Is anyone having a shower for their second?

-also posted on June 2012 moms board-

mishfull

As of now I am not planning anything - though if I had people that expressed interest and someone offered to host it I would accept. I know of people who have had second ones. I think it's tacky to ask for one but if people are asking you and offering to host it I am ok with that.

If anything I wouldn't mind doing a "meet the baby" party after the baby is born for friends and family who have not met the baby. Not so much to get gifts just to introduce the baby - I'd probably have it in a different state where my family is and old friends who wouldn't make the drive to where I live now. 

OrangeSmoke

It's generally considered tacky to have a shower for your second child unless they are VERY far apart in age.

After all, what do you really need anyway?

 

SGC29

I am not having a shower for this LO. My mother insisted that I let my sister throw me at least a small one and I have politely declined again. I just don't feel right about it. I did say that once baby arrives we may have a gathering for everyone to come meet baby but if that were to happen I would like to specifically say "no gifts please". I am actually really hoping no one else offers to throw a shower.

judahsmommy1

The women's ministry at my old church had a policy that they threw one baby shower per woman. So if you were new to the church, but were having your third baby, they would throw a shower. If I were still there they wouldn't throw me one for this baby since they threw one for my DS. My DH and I moved across the country and I'm not sure but it seems like the church we are a part of now has a similar policy. I haven't asked about it since I don't want to be rude or seem like I'm hinting for a party, but that seems to be the pattern I am seeing. I'm not sure what I'll do if they approach me about it.

I also think that some people feel that if the baby is a different gender, than it's more appropriate to throw a second shower to help provide the gender specific items that might be needed.

Sawyerplus1

I had a baby shower for #2. SIL insisted on throwing a little one to celebrate DD as DS had been celebrated. I very gratefully accepted. Since we had most everything we could need, and we knew that we were having a girl (after already having a DS), we mainly got clothes. It was a lovely blessing. 

Sawyerplus1

Sawyerplus1:

I had a baby shower for #2. SIL insisted on throwing a little one to celebrate DD as DS had been celebrated. I very gratefully accepted. Since we had most everything we could need, and we knew that we were having a girl (after already having a DS), we mainly got clothes. It was a lovely blessing. 

Oh, and I should mention that second showers are not considered to be tacky or uncommon where I live, so that wasn't really a factor  

Kasi80

I've been to showers where the mother was on baby #2 and already had a LO young in age.  I never thought it was tacky.  I'm OK with celebrating each baby.

I will be having a shower for this one because my BFF is already planning it.  DS will be 11 by the time this one is born so there is a pretty large gap in age.  

babyike

While we were given a couple of showers when I was pregnant with DD, we chose not to have one when I was pregnant with DS.  Sure some of our family and friends chose to give us a few boy clothing/baby items, but we just felt it was unnecessary to have another shower.  We already had all of the big baby items we needed.  We did throw a little "tea party" for DD right before DS was born with a couple of her toddler girl friends, but no gifts were given (except for the "big sister" gifts we gave to DD).

I did get together for a nice lunch with a few of my closest friends when I was almost 30 weeks with DS, but again no gifts and we split the bill.  A couple of the girls chipped in for a small gift card to BRU for me, but it was a small amount and a just a sweet gesture.   

You could always do a Gender Reveal party and specify "No Gifts Please" on the invite...  

AprilAngie

This is actually posted all the time on here..   Most ppl say its a no no - I say who cares its a baby. 

Most say do a meet the baby party after and don't ask for gifts as its considered rude.  

seriously do what you want.  

NicholeeK

Sawyerplus1:

Sawyerplus1:

I had a baby shower for #2. SIL insisted on throwing a little one to celebrate DD as DS had been celebrated. I very gratefully accepted. Since we had most everything we could need, and we knew that we were having a girl (after already having a DS), we mainly got clothes. It was a lovely blessing. 

Oh, and I should mention that second showers are not considered to be tacky or uncommon where I live, so that wasn't really a factor  

Ditto this. I am having a shower for this LO.  We have showers for every baby regardless of age difference, sex, number of babies already, etc.  My family and friends love showers and to us it's about celebrating the baby, not necessarily the mother.  Plus we love to get together for any reason.  The second+ shower is usually much more laid back, more like everyone just hanging out together, with small gifts (diapers, clothes, new bottles).

I know a lot of people think second showers are tacky, but guess what, in England, the mere thought of any kind of shower is tacky.  DH's mom was pretty horrified about the showers for DS (our first).  It all depends on what is usual in your circle.

If someone offers, I say great, go for it.  I don't think you should ask or throw yourself one... that would be tacky. 

singingirl96

My friend is pregnant with baby #2 and I am throwing here a Baby Sprinkle.  If you look on many baby shower etiquette websites, you'll see that most of them say that as of late it is acceptable to celebrate each pregnancy. 

Here is what the invite will say: 

Bibs and diapers and bottles galore
(mom and dad's name) are having one more
Big (sister/brother) has plenty to share
We're hosting a "sprinkle" to show that we care
Come join our celebration before baby is due
We don't know yet if it will be pink or blue

(alternate ending)
Please join us to celebrate before the little (boy/girl) is due
and share in their joy of baby number two!

 

I think it is perfectly fine to have a party for baby #2, but not ok to go overboard and register for gifts and such. 

 

byrne15

Baby Shower's for #2 are kind of weird...

That being said, my group of friends have a dinner for 2rd, 3rd, etc babies.  We go out to eat and get gifts for the babies (This is a group of 5 of us).

Also, at work we usually get a gift for the mom-to-be no matter what # they are on.

WiFeY 4 LiFeY

My mom and MIL are giving me a shower for our second.. I know it is looked down on on this site.. but our families love to celebrate every baby. I dont really need anything too, what about a diaper party? or what they call a sprinkle (here a link for ideas)

https://www.partybluprintsblog.com/party-themes/host-a-sprinkle-baby-shower-lite

eclipselova4eva

This baby's shower is already in its planning stages. DS will be 8 in a few weeks and I have close to nothing for #2. I will be thankful for anything I get at the shower since we are starting at square 1.

Aleja0918

If you want to celebrate the baby, have a small get together after LO is born.

MrsJax2011

Here it is more common to have a Diaper Party for baby #2.  It is co-ed usually, and family friendly...and people bring diapers or small gifts of things that get used a lot, like wipes, bibs etc.    It is a lot more relaxed/gender neutral than a shower.  The sprinkle idea is cute, too!