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delinedeline
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Hi ladies. I just found out that my BIL and his wife are getting divorced. His wife is probably an alcoholic and cheating on him. She told him that they could settle things outside of the court, but then she got an attorney without telling him.  He cleaned the house and found 13 empty bottles of wine laying around... Neither one of them strike me as very mature or responsible, but out of the two he is better. What are some things I can suggest to him? He wants full custody of their 1 yr old. Everything she's been doing or telling him lately just seems fishy, and I want him to watch his back.

Thanks!

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  • roxygulrjaxroxygulrjax
    I would stay out of it...
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  • achase123achase123
    He definitely needs to get an attorney and document everything he knows about her drinking and anything else that he has as evidence that she isn't a fit parent.  Getting full custody might be difficult, especially given that the LO is only one.
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    Hi ladies. I just found out that my BIL and his wife are getting divorced. His wife is probably an alcoholic and cheating on him. She told him that they could settle things outside of the court, but then she got an attorney without telling him.  He cleaned the house and found 13 empty bottles of wine laying around... Neither one of them strike me as very mature or responsible, but out of the two he is better. What are some things I can suggest to him? He wants full custody of their 1 yr old. Everything she's been doing or telling him lately just seems fishy, and I want him to watch his back.

    Thanks!

    This doesn't mean she's an alcoholic. When is the last time the house was cleaned or the bottles were taken away. My BIL has numerous beer cases in the garage as he collects the bottles for a while before turning them in. It would seem he drinks a lot but he actually doesn't.

    Why does he want full custody? Is it because of anger or because of something more serious? If she has been a good mom so far it might be difficult to prove she shouldn't have at least joint custody.

    Telling him things that seem fishy could mean she has been planning to leave or that she has something planned or that he is reading into things too much.

    It's a good idea to watch his back and look out for his child but not to do it out of anger. Tell him to get a lawyer and get some real legal advice.

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