January 2012 Moms

IL's vent

Don't get me wrong. I love my in-laws and in many ways, I am incredibly thankful for them. They just don't want to let my child sleep. Sundays are hard anyway, because getting up for church in the morning disrupts our routine a bit, so DD generally has already either missed her morning nap or slept fitfully. We spend Sunday afternoons with MIL and FIL while DH is at work. It is also because, once I go back to work, DD will be spending the bulk of every weekend with them and I want her to get used to spending time with them.

My DD has not gotten more than 30 min of sleep over the last 6-7 hrs because every time I quiet her and get her settled into the RnP, she tends to fuss a bit in her sleep and my in-laws hate seeing that, so they pull her out to hold her. HELLO! That wakes her up! It's called a ROCK n' Play for a reason - just rock the damn thing! I feel like she's never going to learn to soothe herself (which she does splendidly when she's at home), and I am getting concerned about leaving her with them on the weekends. I'm afraid that every Monday I'll be dealing with a zombie child.

This is one of the first times I've been really frustrated with my in-laws because we otherwise have a wonderful relationship. My DH understands my frustration but doesn't do or say anything to them because he doesn't want to make them feel bad. I don't either, but when DD doesn't sleep well during the day, she doesn't sleep well at night either, which means WE don't sleep. I'm dreading tonight . *sigh* Thanks for letting me vent. =(

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Re: IL's vent

  • I'm so sorry. It is so hard to put your foot down. Maybe politely say "let me try rocking the baby" when they go to pick her up. If they see you doing it and see that it works they may try it. I know it killed my mom not to pick up my daughter, but she respected my wishes when I laid out what I wanted. 
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