In your opinion what was harder...clicky poll

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CakesMommy2114

100% being pregnant is way harder... My first two are 21 months apart and being pregnant was way less rewarding then holding and having a newborn to snuggle!!

Now with two under 4 (dd turns 4 in march) I cannot wait to have the baby!!! 

howleyshell

FWIW, DH and I vote differently on this.

I said pregnant and toddler and DH says infant and toddler.

No big shocker there, right?

hee hee

 

MrsDB

my kids are exactly 2.5 years apart. Being pregnant was MUCH harder for me. I was so physically exhausted chasing after a 2 year old and growing a human at the same time. Once he was born it was sooo much better. I felt more rested. I think part of it is that you'll likely have more help after a baby is born than pregnant. 

Jezebel1228

mine are 3 years apart but for me, having an infant and a toddler was harder, esp for the first few months. B was colicky for about 4-5 months and I felt like I just couldnt give Caleb enough attention. 

I think every situation is different! 

Court0026

Depends on the kids!  My 2nd pregnancy was EASY....10x easier than my 1st and my 2nd child cried/screamed/fussed for 6 months.  She ate around the clock every 3 hours for like 8 months and still doesn't sleep through the night at almost 21 months.  I mean, you just never know!

delg23

For the first month I though being pregnant was harder but now I think its harder to have both. I think later on though I will think its easier having 2 than pregnant w/ 1. 

kagl08

I thought being pregnant with a toddler was WAY harder than having 2. My 2 are 13.5 months apart...

moonfaerie

howleyshell:

FWIW, DH and I vote differently on this.

I said pregnant and toddler and DH says infant and toddler.

No big shocker there, right?

hee hee

lol! I'm curious what my H would say....a big reason he didn't want a third child was that he didn't want to live with me while pg again.

For me, it's pg & toddler hands down.

FormerlyKrista555

Well, I'm 40w1d pregnant today, so I can only speak of pregnancy + a toddler, but I'll say that it hasn't been that bad.  Our house is pretty baby-proofed, so on days when I'm really hurting, DD just brings me books, brings me toys to play together, etc.

I guess I should also disclose that DH is able to be home a lot. That helps a ton. And I also never take her out alone anymore... I wait till DH gets home.

I think a lot depends on how much your spouse is able to help, and what choices you make.  I just decided early on that the house would be clean but not perfect, and by about 25 weeks I was no longer taking Maddie anywhere by ourselves unless I had to.   I understand that not everyone can do that, though.

sweetpea2003

My pregnancy with my son was ROUGH.  High risk, P-17 shots, shortening cervix, and he ended up being 9 pounds 11 ounces at birth (39 weeks).  So it wasn't comfortable. 

That being said, I just think that this is like comparing apples and oranges.  The difficulty is so different.  Both scenarios are tough, but they are tough in ways that (at least for me) are impossible to compare. 

I was HAPPIER when I had both my babies on the outside.  But I can't say that having a newborn and a toddler was easier than being pregnant and having a toddler.  Logistics became more difficult and I slept a lot less.  So things were harder but I felt better if that makes sense???

Not to rock the boat more, but FOR ME, when DS turned 6 months and got mobile things got very very difficult.  That was the hardest transition for our family.  Things have definitely gotten easier now that they are both older (15m and 2.5) and two toddlers has become our "normal".  But early on, when DD was still getting to know her brother, and DS was just taking her things, crawling everywhere, etc...  my life was CHAOS. haha.

xtencornfield

I had easy pg's for the most part so I picked having an infant and toddler...although I don't find that to be too difficult either. I think having two toddlers will be the true test!