gonna use a sledgehammer vent

fyrefairie

on DHs XBOX-he was gone for basically 4 straight days (he works 24s) and now that he is home for 4 he has been nearly completely useless (was in bed for 6 hours last night because he had a headache...spare me),  but was able to make it to his buddy's bday party earlier in the day, and has been on his GD XBOX for 5 hours today...I hate that stupid box and have no idea why a 35 yr old man needs to spend so much time on freaking video games.  plus he thinks he is some kind of hero because he's changed 2 diapers today and took LO for an hour so I could get a nap without her (she refuses to sleep alone at night). 

pcrock92

Tell your DH to read my post about my SO being in the ICU because of his extended periods of video-game playing.. He might change his mind.

SoonToBeMsP

FarmBoysWife:

I flipped *** on dh and threatend to take his playstation to gamestop and sell it if he didnt do x, y, and!z. Tell your dh exactly what you need. Hes not a mindreader and he cant know how you feel or what you're thinking if you dont tell him. If there is a method that gets your dh to shape up, use it. but at least communicate with him.

I agree with this. DH now understands that he can play if/when she is fed, happy and sleeping and I've had some down time. It has worked out well and he isn't going overboard with it (not that he did, since we nipped it in the butt). 

fyrefairie

Yeah this has been an ongoing discussion he knows how i feel...

PsyDr04

My husband does the same thing with his computer games. He was awesome the first 2 weeks after DS was born, but now I want to slap him most of the time. I guess he thinks that if I have the baby, he can play his games. Today he got irritated because I was gone for 4 hours and the baby cried most of that time. Welcome to my world.

fyrefairie

FarmBoysWife:

fyrefairie:

Yeah this has been an ongoing discussion he knows how i feel...

usually when dh and i have had discussion after discussion about something if i cuss or call him a nasty name he realises its important. You dont have anything like this to get his attention? or make a date out or something.... I made MMH take lo out once, he got tons better with his game playing after th

Not sure I want to resort to name calling to get through to him- hehasnt been left with LO for too long since she is EBF and we have not yet introduced the bottle (starting next week).  Too much nagging and he tends to just overrationalize his behavior in his head and stops listening.  And the new Mommy in me ( who is also super tired) doesn't have the energy for round after round of arguments on this one anymore. He knows I hate it and am sick of it in excess and have been since before LO arrived...he still does it.  Like PP he was great the first few weeks then I guess since I was in less pain (4th degree tear) he figured it was back to normal time...IDK I'm just sick of him doing it but I am as sick of having to discuss it with him AGAIN

rachel.wenger

To be honest, give him a break...if he in fact worked 96 hours straight according to his post.  My husband works, but his gaming habits are his hobby.  He lets me do my thing when I need it and we take turns.  If he has a headache, that's fine...people get them.  I guess I don't have a problem with gaming because my DH doesn't go out with his buddies as he used to or do a lot of other "personal" get aways.  Just think of it like that...if that is his escape from reality, let it happen, so long as you get yours too.  Just say you need a break when you need one, but don't take away his livelihood if gaming is it.  X-box or not, some hobby should be in place for your DH to let out frustrations if he has them (same to you as well).  More of a keeping your sanity type of thing for both of you.

julievernarsky

Well, if somebody needs an escape, I can understand that.  But an escape, holiday, vacation, or whatever you want to call it comes only after preparation.  If baby is not happy then the preparation hasn't occurred yet.  Your significant other should be helping as he 'helped' create the baby.  Perhaps there is something he can do one handed to entertain himself while helping keep baby happy?

I was that horrible wife that told her husband that she hated video games right from the start.  He has only played them once when I've been home, ever.  He's also in his mid-thirties.  I'm in my early twenties so everybody else thinks I'm weird but it works for us.   

fyrefairie

rachel.wenger:

To be honest, give him a break...if he in fact worked 96 hours straight according to his post.  My husband works, but his gaming habits are his hobby.  He lets me do my thing when I need it and we take turns.  If he has a headache, that's fine...people get them.  I guess I don't have a problem with gaming because my DH doesn't go out with his buddies as he used to or do a lot of other "personal" get aways.  Just think of it like that...if that is his escape from reality, let it happen, so long as you get yours too.  Just say you need a break when you need one, but don't take away his livelihood if gaming is it.  X-box or not, some hobby should be in place for your DH to let out frustrations if he has them (same to you as well).  More of a keeping your sanity type of thing for both of you.

12 hours yesterday.....thats a little more personal time than I think is necessary and FYI his shifts at the firehouse iclude gaming when they don'thave calls mind you so don't feel too sorry for hyis 96 hour stretch