Good morning! I am hoping you can help me with a problem I am having.
My mother offered to throw my shower right when I found out I was pregnant. I was very excited and said yes. I asked her if it would be ok if my SIL helped, if she offered, and my mom said yes. My SIL did offer to throw me a shower, and now the two of them are going to work together.
My SIL was apparently talking to her mother recently (my MIL) and told her about the shower. My MIL never asked to be involved in my last shower (bridal shower) and I guess regretted it. My SIL encouraged her to contact me if she wanted to help.
So, yesterday my MIL calls me and tells me she wants to throw a shower for me and invite her family. Most of her family lives about an hour away, and it would be more convenient for them if the shower were down there.
I want my MIL to feel included, but I really only want one shower. It's not really an option to have my mom and my MIL work together. My mom wants to have my shower at a restaurant, she is a huge party planner, and a perfectionist. My MIL thinks a restaurant shower is a waste of money, wants to make the food, is very frugal and last minute, etc. There would be drama and I want to avoid this.
I just don't know what to do. I know my MIL has good intentions, but I wonder how a shower thrown by herself would turn out. She's the type of person to forget to mail invitations, wait until the last minute, etc. I don't want my husband's side of the family to not attend a shower because she planned on throwing one and didn't.
Anyway, sorry this is so lengthy, but I am hoping you ladies could give me advice. Thanks in advance!