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jf1211

My DD is almost 15 months so she will be almost 2 when I have baby #2. Im debating on whether it would be best to have them share a room? Our house is a 3 bed so we have another room but Im still debating what would be best? What have you ladies done? Thanks

SRK128

Split them up. You don't want DD #1 waking up in the middle of the night b/c of the new baby. 

NavyPilotWife

I moved my kids in together, when DD2 was 12.5 months and DD1 was just shy of 2.5.  My kids are crappy sleepers and it's very rare that they wake each other up.

jf1211

Yeah. We have a lot of company that stay the night that's really the only reason. But Im thinking I will leave a full size bed in baby room for when we have company and just put the baby in our room for times like that.

celiabwatson

We have my son's room set up with a toddler bed and a crib. He's been sleeping in the toddler bed for 6 months or so now and identifies the crib as his sister's bed. She slept in our room in a moses basket for the first few weeks and then once she started sleeping through the night we put a bassinet in the guest room as a transition. I feel comfortable now with them sleeping in the same room and this weekend I plan to do some rearranging so it can happen.

For example, I need to set up a changing station for both of them outside of that room so that when she's napping I can change my son. I also need to move the monitor back into their room (we moved it into the guest room because she's not as loud as my son). Little things like that and then we're biting the bullet and putting them together. I feel pretty confident that it will go fine, and my son is a terrible sleeper.

moonfaerie

My two are 14 months apart and they had their own rooms at first. We moved them in together when #2 was about 6 months old. the first couple of nights were rough because DD1 was excited that she could see DD2, but once she got used to it, it's been fine. Now that DD2 is more interactive and starting to talk, they really like sharing a room.

FWIW, we are looking at a 4BR house, and will have three kids, but we will still have the older two share a room. We also have overnight guests come, so I'd rather have a guest room than have each kid in their own room.

Also my DD1 is a crappy sleeper, and she didn't wake up much when I had to go in for night feedings for DD2. DD2 sleeps through DD1's screaming just fine on the nights DD1 has trouble sleeping.

You could have the newborn sleep in your room for a couple of months until s/he starts STTN better if you don't want to move them in together right away, too.

howleyshell

Think about the actual usage of said room.  It will sit empty at least 50% of the time.  To us that wasn't logical use of the space. 

Instead we chose to invest in a really nice full height aero bed that stores in the closet.  My Mom says it's more comfy that the queen sized guest bed we got rid of.

We have the kids do a "sleep over" (they share a room) when we have guests so our guests still have the privacy of their own room during their stay but our kids also get the benefits of having their own space as well the majority of the time.

I'm sure there are benefits to sharing a room but I also believe there are benefits (especially in the sleep department) of having their own rooms and space as well.  Especially when one of them is sick and the other one isn't!!!

They have different interests and like having a space that's their own, the ability to go to their rooms to get away from each other and toys that are more specifically theirs since they share a LOT in comparison to other kids.

 

 

Court0026

jf1211:

Yeah. We have a lot of company that stay the night that's really the only reason. But Im thinking I will leave a full size bed in baby room for when we have company and just put the baby in our room for times like that.

This is probably what I would do in the situation. 

moonfaerie

howleyshell:

Think about the actual usage of said room.  It will sit empty at least 50% of the time.  To us that wasn't logical use of the space.  

This is probably true for many people. In my case, I have a step-daughter who visits so it's better for us to have a guest room; she will feel like it's "her" room, whie she is out of town, when she does come it's for long stretches so it won't displace one of the kids for a long time, DH prefers not to have the kids get in the habit of sleeping in our room, etc. My step-daughter is older so i figure by the time she stops coming for regular visits, my first two will be about 11 and 12 or 12 and 13, which ill be when having privacy starts to really matter and then we will separate their rooms.

So, you just need to evaluate your needs as to how often your company comes, how long they stay, and how long you foresee them continuing to visit regularly.

moonfaerie

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