Back from a playdate (babies mentioned)

weddedwife

Got back from a playdate w/ DD earlier today, and I just want to come here & "talk" about it cuz I know you ladies will understand. 2 of the moms who showed up have babies. It was hard to sit there & chat with them while the older kids played. I tried to not look at the babies, especially the boy. Inevitably the talk turns to babies. It's just innocent chat but it's so much more to me now. A few of them were discussing hand-me-downs & sibling issues. I just clammed up at that point.

Does this get easier at some point? I go to these playdates for my DD- she needs to get out of the house & have interaction w/ other kids, which means being around other moms & babies. I can't hide in my house forever. But after a while I'm just done and need to leave. I figure if I keep going it'll get easier? But now I'm not sure. It's just so, so hard to be in these situations. I don't want to be like this! My heart just hurts.

Gizu92708

I'm sorry. I don't think it gets "easier", I just think we learn how to deal with each situation. Some days my nephew is around me and I'm ok with it. Some days he's around and I just stare at him and hug him and kiss him all over just because I miss my son so much. Now on the other hand , my front neighbor has a 3 month old and she's always going outside with the baby in her arms so he gets some sunlight she says. Ugh!! I wish she would never take him out of her house . I wish that baby would stay in that house till he's 40 !! It hurts everytime I see her.

pb127

(((HUGS)))  I'm not in this situation, but my friend is and I know she is still having a hard time after several months. I can only offer up to take it day-by-day to see if you're up to taking DD for a play date and facing the moms (I know some days I feel invincible and some days I'm a big ol' mess).

Also, are there any places where you can do a "drop-off" thing or something like storytime at the library where there might be less chatting among the adults? Or maybe you can call someone (or text them to call you) who you can have a long phone call with when the talk goes to LOs?  I do that as a backup fairly often.

I'm sorry I'm not much help but I'm really sorry about you having to deal with this.