clicky-poll: how many kids??

sarack

 

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sarack

we will be happy with any baby but we hope that we will have 1 boy and 1 girl. we've decided that if we get 2 boys or 2 girls, we'll try a 3rd time.

i've ALWAYS wanted a big family but since money is an issue, i try to be realistic.

jennlin

2-

we had always decided that if we had 2 boys, we would adopt a girl. but if we had 2 girls, we would stop there. 

now, only 8 days pp, my vag is still in pain, and the thought of another labor makes me sick. but we are both very very adamant that we don't want just one..so...i guess i'll have to do this whole thing again. oy.

~Lynchie~

I had always planned on 4, but since #2 and #3 came at the same time unexpectedly, I think we're good...

breebree13

I always wanted 3. Then I had 2 under 2 and had been pregnant and nursing for like the last 3 years. Now I'm catching up on my wine and have no plans to have another child.

stacylu

We always said 2 or 3. If #2 had been another girl we may have gone for a third but I have a feeling we would have been done since my bandwidth is pretty much maxed out. We're done at 2.

dawnies79

DH wants 2 max. I'm open to 3. My family is small so I've always wanted a bigger family. 

tobykitty

1 and done. I'm not sure how all you fine ladies are managing more than that. 

My sister and I fight like cats and dogs and I know every situation is different but I don't want Quinn to have to deal with that.

 

blueLu25

We always said 2 or 3, but after being pg the second time I didnt think my body could physically get thru a third pregnancy without something going wrong. But we are really happy with two and I think its the best for us. I dont know if I could do 3 mentally. 

McJen715

I would like 2-4, he says he is 1 and done. We plan on talking more about it this summer/her 2nd Birthday.

JRS72206

Two is my max, but we are good for another few years with just the one. I think we will revisit the idea in another 2-3 years.

suzie711

I always wanted 3, DH wants 2.  Since we had to do IVF for #1 and will probably have to again we will probably be done after 2  (unless we have twins ..)

Alli923

We've always said 3-4.  We're set on at least 3, if baby #3 is another girl, we'll be done.  I don't think either of us would survive if we had 4 daughters.

Even though I hate pregnancy and childbirth, I'll do it just because I love being a mama and we both want a bigger family.  Of course, these plans may all go to *** once I have 2 kids to take care of.   

SoundersChick

We want 3. We will see how things go. If our second child is born with a cleft lip and palate like our first one I'm not sure I will be willing to try for a 3rd. I don't care what they are but I have a feeling that I'm going to be stuck in a house full of boys since there are very few girls on DH's side.

LauraLynneC

IN high school I said "no kids - NO HOW!"

Then I met ExDH and thought "ok - maybe one"

Then I had one and I wanted her to have a sibling - when DS was born I was "done".  "2 hands, 2 parents, 2 kids"

Then I got divorced.  then I met DH.  Then we couldn't decide.  Then we got pregnant.  So now I have 3. 

But I dont' know that I'm done.  we can't decide (but we're taking measures for 'no more for now')

I keep waiting for that feeling of "done" to come back.  I'm not sure it will.  But age/money are the limiting factors....

kaskade

I always wanted five, like my mom.  I loved growing up in a crowded house.

Now that reality has hit - $, time, I love my job and am not going to be a SAHM like my mom - two is our magic number.  DH also feels very strongly about population - you should only replace yourselves - so two is what he's always wanted.

Once we get K through all her medical stuff in another year or two we will try for #2.

doublem

We go back and forth about 2 or 3.  Right now it looks like we could have the same amount of difficulty getting pregnant the next time around, so if it takes as much time, we may end up with just 2.  We'll see!

doublem

jennlin:

2-

we had always decided that if we had 2 boys, we would adopt a girl. but if we had 2 girls, we would stop there. 

now, only 8 days pp, my vag is still in pain, and the thought of another labor makes me sick. but we are both very very adamant that we don't want just one..so...i guess i'll have to do this whole thing again. oy.

I don't think people really tell you how much healing you go through after giving birth.  My bits were painful/uncomfortable up until about 3 weeks PP, and even after that they were pretty sensitive for a few months.  My MW said it was totally normal.  Sorry you're dealing with this!

karebear219

H and I have always said start with one and see how it goes, no more than two. I think h is good with one and I would be okay with that. It is too soon to decide.

Mike&Care

I think we might have 4. We have three kids and it makes me sad to think that we are done. We both come from families of 6 (4 kids), so it feels right to keep going. With that said, I wish adoption was more financially feasible. I'd love to adopt a little girl or boy that needed a home. Unfortunately, we looked into it and it would be 30K+ out of pocket. Foster care is too much risk with our other kids at home... maybe when they are older/leave home.

 

skenyon

I always though I would have 3-4. And then I had 2 crazy,  busy, wild boys in 30 months. They are truly all I can handle at this point and I am very happy with that.

 

Johlise

We'll probably have 6 or more. I'm from a family of 11 kids, and DH comes from a family of 4.

MrsH_08

We wanted 4, but will probably stop at 2. We have age and infertility against us. Even if #2 doesn't require 2 yrs or IVF, like DS did, age is still a possible issue.

soralette

I put 2, since that's what we've firmly decided on. But we're retaining an "option" on a third. Just in case.

braveangel2

So back when we were dating and completely clueless, we said six. Yep. Six. Then a few weeks later, we backed it down to four. Then we had our first, and I was one and done. But then I got the baby urge. Damn it's strong! We currently have two, and I love it. He feels done, but I'm waiting to see. His family had three kids, and I loved the banter and exchanges between them at family gatherings. We're waiting and seeing at this point.

CDMay2006

Our plan is two (one bio, one adopted), but i think we'd both be happy with three (one biological and two adopted, in my opinion, opposite in dh's).

christyhal

We'd like two.  One boy and one girl, in a perfect world.  But I'll be happy as long as they're healthy, regardless of gender.  We definitely don't want a big family - I am the oldest of five, and didn't enjoy it growing up.  Plus, my parents were (and still are - some of my siblings are still school-age) in well over their heads financially.  I'd like for us to be able to support ourselves responsibly.