So, I am first hand evidence on why it is positive that most agencies try to hold BMs from picking families too early. We have known about this baby since she was 5 weeks along. I know that is not her fault, nor ours, but I wish it hadn't happened that way because it has been a long 3 months next week and I really have no idea how we are emotionally going to make it through the next 4-5 months.
Update - Everything is going good except the normal emotional doubts/issues that our BM is experiencing and because she just got her medical card figured out we haven't gotten her counseling yet - so I have been her "person". I love her (if you remember - she is my DH's step-sis and I have known her as long as he has), but I can't carry her and me through this journey emotionally. We are going down to spend some time with her and the rest of our family next week and meeting with our lawyer who is going to set up some counseling for her, so I think it will start to get better. I just need to learn how to deal and I am not there yet.
She hasn't changed her mind or anything, she just has been talking a lot more to me about how hard it is going to be - which is realistic and I think positive that she is being realistic - I just have to support her while I am freaking out inside and I can't put ANY of that back to her and I just feel like I am going crazy!!!!!
I am going to try to focus on the positive. She scheduled her anatomy scan for next Thursday at 1pm (just about 1 week left to wait) so that we can go with. We found out a couple weeks ago that it is a Boy but we are looking forward to confirming that and getting to see him in person. I guess I just found a positive about knowing early - we get to go through all of the pregnancy steps with her.
How did all of you get through your waits?