I should go right?

Nessia

(ex)MIL is having a surprise 60th birthday on Saturday night. I'm still close to my IL's and see my MIL everyday since she picks the kids up. I've been all set to go even though I'm an "ex" now and the current GF is going. This will be the first time I meet the GF and all of a sudden I'm chickening out. I kinda feel like its not place anymore since I'm not technically in their family anymore. I just have to suck it up right? I should be there to celebrate with MIL right? I'm providing the cake too. :-)

PMBridetobe

I would go.  There will be many times when you will have to interact with the new gf or other flavor of the months for many years ahead.  Suck it up, hold your head high and remember all the reasons you are better off now!

angelaggie

Yeah you probably should. Just have a drink ready for when you get home. I know I'd try to talk myself out of going. 

joyco

Hold up.  Did you ever report back on what you did with the ring??

Taytee

joyco:

Hold up.  Did you ever report back on what you did with the ring??

Werd. I'm withholding my awesome advice until you dish.

august8080

Yeah, I think you should. Just remember--you have his kids and (what seems to be) an awesome relationship with your ILs. Much like a wild animal, she's more scared of you than you are of her.

SaraLouiseBride08

august8080:

Yeah, I think you should. Just remember--you have his kids and (what seems to be) an awesome relationship with your ILs. Much like a wild animal, she's more scared of you than you are of her.

Hahahahahahaha. Awesome

GO! 1. You provided the cake. 2. PP is right - she's scared shiitless of you since the MIL and you are close. She's "the other woman" as far as your MIL is concerned, and that's awkard.

Go, arrive on time, don't stay too late, and feel damn good that you're better off!

Nessia

Taytee:

joyco:

Hold up.  Did you ever report back on what you did with the ring??

Werd. I'm withholding my awesome advice until you dish.

It is no longer in my possession and not because I sold it. Let me tell you he's a real stand up guy. Like everything else he's done didn't affect my opinion of him, this did.

 

I know I have to go. I know that I have the "upper hand" in that I was first, I'm the kid's mother, the inlaws are always super supportive of me (they know their son is an ass), I know his entire family and they will always ask about me. I just get nervous and I don't really know why. It's probably a confidence thing and my lack of it. 

august8080

Nessia:

Taytee:

joyco:

Hold up.  Did you ever report back on what you did with the ring??

Werd. I'm withholding my awesome advice until you dish.

It is no longer in my possession and not because I sold it. Let me tell you he's a real stand up guy. Like everything else he's done didn't affect my opinion of him, this did.

 

I know I have to go. I know that I have the "upper hand" in that I was first, I'm the kid's mother, the inlaws are always super supportive of me (they know their son is an ass), I know his entire family and they will always ask about me. I just get nervous and I don't really know why. It's probably a confidence thing and my lack of it. 

Fake it 'til you feel it. Seriously, it will work. Wear something you feel good in and just go in there like you own the place. Think of some mantras you can say to yourself in your head that will pump you up. "I'm so much classier than she is." "Everyone here loves me." "I'm so much better off without him." Stuff like that....

Nessia

august8080:

Fake it 'til you feel it. Seriously, it will work. Wear something you feel good in and just go in there like you own the place. Think of some mantras you can say to yourself in your head that will pump you up. "I'm so much classier than she is." "Everyone here loves me." "I'm so much better off without him." Stuff like that....

Good idea. The restaurant also has great beer-ritas which will help take the edge off. The kids will probably get fussy so it gives me an excuse to leave too.

agran

It sounds like you've decided to go... has the fam met the flavor of the month yet?  I'm sure they'll all be standing around talking smack about her to you so you can just smile and think about how awesome you are. 

Good luck!!  Oh... and if that lug head stole your ring file a theft report!! What a jerk. 

Keribells

Nessia:

Taytee:

joyco:

Hold up.  Did you ever report back on what you did with the ring??

Werd. I'm withholding my awesome advice until you dish.

It is no longer in my possession and not because I sold it. Let me tell you he's a real stand up guy. Like everything else he's done didn't affect my opinion of him, this did.

 

I know I have to go. I know that I have the "upper hand" in that I was first, I'm the kid's mother, the inlaws are always super supportive of me (they know their son is an ass), I know his entire family and they will always ask about me. I just get nervous and I don't really know why. It's probably a confidence thing and my lack of it. 

Umm...I saw your FB status about this. Isn't this stealing? What a d-bag!

Nessia

Change of plans. Not going. Ex is an *** and I refuse to go anywhere where he is at for the time being.

Keribells

Nessia:

Change of plans. Not going. Ex is an *** and I refuse to go anywhere where he is at for the time being.

oh honey...so sorry. Situations like that are hard enough without one of the parties going down the jacka s s road...

SaraLouiseBride08

Nessia:

Change of plans. Not going. Ex is an *** and I refuse to go anywhere where he is at for the time being.

I totally don't blame you, considering the circumstances. Do something classy like send her flowers with a lovely birthday note.

GuavaGal

Nessia:

Change of plans. Not going. Ex is an *** and I refuse to go anywhere where he is at for the time being.

Well now the FB message I just sent you will seem strange, but. . .I'm sorry you're dealing with such an assclown.  That totally sucks.

However, I hope this means you'll do something else fun that evening.    I hear living well is the best revenge.

angelaggie

Can we start a possy to egg his house and throw bologna on his car?

OrangeFelt

SHUT THE FRONT DOOR!!! He lifted it?? Omg, I would totally go police report on his a$$.

I'm really pissed for you. Fine, its a ring, but its the un-trustworthiness of a person you have to share your children with that gets me.  At the very least... its damned good ammo for a custody hearing.

SareBear30

SaraLouiseBride08:

august8080:

Yeah, I think you should. Just remember--you have his kids and (what seems to be) an awesome relationship with your ILs. Much like a wild animal, she's more scared of you than you are of her.

Hahahahahahaha. Awesome

GO! 1. You provided the cake. 2. PP is right - she's scared shiitless of you since the MIL and you are close. She's "the other woman" as far as your MIL is concerned, and that's awkard.

Go, arrive on time, don't stay too late, and feel damn good that you're better off!

Sorry I'm so late to the party, but I agreed with this entirely.

However... since I saw the most recent update, I might change my tune. Any chance he would be late? You could go early (like even before the party) then leave right after it starts and go meet some friends for a ladies night! Definitely more fun than him!