Do you ever feel like...

battybtags

you'll never get to do what you want ever again? Since having C, all "free" time is spent doing house work-dishes, laundry,etc...when it was just A, it seemed hard but now with 2, you realize how easy you had it with just 1. I think DH is taking it harder than I am but I know we both sort of feel like we dont get to do what we want anymore...its doing what needs to be done to get by for the day.  It has to get better at some point right? Like when theyre 18?!

jnk062602

Ya- dh says this daily. And my upcoming return to work is hitting him hard. I keep telling him by this summer things will be better. If only that the babies will be more independent and sleeping better. And hopefully A is sleeping better for you by then too.

tab890

I only have one and I absolutely feel like this.  Sometimes I feel like I never have any time just for myself.  I know sometimes I get into a funk too because of it.  I really need to make time for myself, its just theres not enough hours in the day - and those free hours I want to spend sleeping!  My DH has been working A LOT lately so its made free time non-exisitant as well.

I think by the time my kids are 18 and we DO have free time I am not going to know what to do with myself!

olivia_eve

Yup! It doesn't help that T is not a great sleeper, so night time is spent putting him back to sleep. He used to nap really well, but he's starting to get worse. I think it will be easier when he can play independently for a while, I'm thinking when he's around a year old. And when he's older he'll breastfeed less so I can leave my house for more than a few hours at a time. My mom always says she had no life for 5 years after she started having kids, and that sounds about right. 

MrsWhiteonWhiteSt

It's funny I used to think the same thing- I was "so busy" with 1 kid. Having more really puts it into perspective. It is hard and most days it's thankless, I think that contributes to the hardness. It's only a short period of time... we can all do this!

emiliemetcalf

I only have one right now, and I am really scared of #2 coming.  But I have a friend whose children are 7 and 10 now, and she dearly misses those days of being needed for simple things like a scrape or getting something out of the fridge (instead of which boy at school likes them lol)

JenJar

I think we all have days when this is how we feel, but I honestly try not to let it get to me.  I'm constantly reminding myself (and DH when he seems to be getting overwhelmed) that it's not always going to be this way, and some day we're going to miss it.  He usually laughs at me when I say that, but I know one day, years from now, we'll miss all the chaos involved in toys everywhere, loud singing, the 'Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom...' phase, and the constant requests to play something new.  Also, I have to remind him sometimes (since he's a bit OCD) that it's ok if we don't get all the cleaning done as long as we enjoy the day as a family.

mrsoc

I agree with JJ, there are definitely days I feel like this, but I try to soak up every minute, because I know that there will be plenty of time later on that I will have the chance to do those things, and I'll wish my babies were still with me .  I think that I felt that way more when A was a newborn and it was just so hard.  

I think that about all of the toys some days, but then think, I will be so sad when my living room is not totally consumed with toys.  

I think the part I have the hardest time with now is taking time out for DH and I.  This was so much easier with 1 and it just is harder to ask someone to watch 2.  We have plenty of people who will, it is just is harder for me to ask.   

meryltheresa

mrsoc:

 This was so much easier with 1 and it just is harder to ask someone to watch 2.  We have plenty of people who will, it is just is harder for me to ask.   

You know you can always ask me!  And I will gladly return the favor!   

 I feel like this from time to time, and I've found i just need to put my foot down and make time for myself.  It's usually myself that i'm battling with.  I think because I work full time I feel like my time is so precious with my kids, so the thought of catching a movie on a Tuesday night makes me sad becuase then I won't really see them that day.  But it's needed because otherwise you go crazy!