people checking in not making things easier

Vii Lii

I understand that other people are anxious, I get that, and they're excited. But if my mom asks me one more time when I THINK the baby will come, I'm going to blow a lid. Gee I don't know! And guessing games aren't going to help. I feel Like family members fear I won't tell them when I deliver, so they're constantly checking in. That, and now my mom is trying to guilt me about our decision to have no one in the delivery room. She feels like she should be the exception. Thing is, my mom has a history of stressing me out unnecessarily, and she always feels like she needs to be more important in my life than anyone else (always talking my dad down my whole life). Eugh sorry for the rant. Im just not going to answer the phone anymore.

megamuff4

I feel your pain!  My mom is exactly the same way!  And in the last 2 days about 5 other people have jumped on the bandwagon of endless questions and comments.  I get really annoyed at all the "advice" about how to naturally induce labor.  Ugh I have already had these conversations with the same people over and over and yet they still keep telling me the same things!  I am still working (on my feet half the day) and am staying busy at home with non-stop walking and cleaning and that's all I feel I can do...now leave me alone!

hopefully our LOs come soon so we can stop hearing it 

natalie_wn@yahoo.com

Understand completely. We had a close friend - who will likely be at the top of our list - ask us if the baby was born yet. My hubby just gave a smart ass remark - "Yup, baby girl, named her Sparkles". Seriously people, we will let you know when you need to know, especially if you ARE family or close friends. Everyone knows that baby comes when baby comes.

SandraRay2008

Its driving me crazy too! It is just adding to my anxiety. I have stopped answering my phone for the people I know are just calling to "check in". 

Kelbelle28

I'm totally with you girls. I've been done with work for 2 weeks now and trying to keep busy. My mom and mother in law keep calling to check in and I know they mean well but its like I'm not going to forget to call you or something. I can't call my mom without her asking "is something happening?" I'm like NO! i will let you know. I'm past my due date and baby is still high so its definately very frusterating. Hopefully we all have our healthy little babies really soon!!

elizxu

I hear you! The worst offender for me...a vendor from work. He calls me at least once a day. We are friends (he did come to my wedding) but it's still strange. I just answer the phone the say way for everyone now...could be my mom, sister or a friend, they all get the same "hello", which is "No baby".

Just wait ladies...it gets 100% worse if you go past your EDD!

chippy3465

I was doing okay with all the questions until they started asking on my facebook wall. It wasn't even like the questions went with my posts about being preggers. For instance, I posted last week I had a great breakfast with my sister in law....nothing in there about pregnancy whatsoever but then I get this question from my aunt on this post "Is Jared here yet?" Every fiber of me wanted to scream and put my response as "Yup! Had him last night. Didn't bother telling anyone as seeing I was really looking forward to going out to breakfast with SIL." At this point I'm trying to refrain from going postal on anyone that is not my DH and parents....we shall see though lol.

MM4Ever

Yep.  I have had 2 friends text now, my mother and DH's friend had told me to "do it,"  Dh's Grandma told him to "chase me around the block," and people have started posting on facebooking wanting picutres of the Baby ASAP.  Like it will be our number 1 priority after the birth 

MrsLindinger0905

The worst is when someone (like my mom) texts or calls and I don't answer right away because I'm at work or taking a much needed NAP, and then they call and call and text and text and try to contact everyone in their phone book to see if they've heard anything. It's like GEEZE mom you will be the FIRST person to know, calm down!

Brenna9481

For me a few weeks ago, I ask for advice from my FB friends on what was the most useful item in their hospital bag.  After that, I got some congrats type of comments.  I made sure to then reply back telling those people that the baby wasn't on the way yet but that I was just packing the bag.  DH's uncle was convinced that I had this baby and had DH's aunt (DH's uncle's sister) convinced too.  My MIL told them otherwise and informed them they would get a call when it does happen.

My MIL does call me or DH everyday to see how things are going.  My mom sends me a text about everyday to see if anything is going on and my sister constantly posts on FB about wanting Gunner to come.  Annoying, yes.  But they are excited.  Gunner will be the first boy grandchild.

sparks2987

OMG yes!!!! I could have written this post! I am not even to my EDD yet and I want to yell at everyone. QUIT ASKING!!

I am out of responses that are nice. I dont know when she is coming, I will call you! Now I worry about people calling WHILE I am in labor. geez people I get that you are excited but it is making me nuts. I spend all day telling myself she will come when she is ready and their impatience makes it harder for me to be patient.

and it is not just one or two people it is EVERYWHERE, at work, family, friends, on facebook, church, even people at stores I go to frequently.

For the safety of others I should hibernate the rest of this pregnancy!

cinderella4282

DH and I work at the same place so when my midwife decided to induce me three days early and he didn't go back to work after lunch, the calls and text messages began. 

We opted to turn off our phones though and just called everyone after little Amelia was here. I smartly didn't tell any of my extended family that I was diagnosed with pre-e or that I was being induced 3.5 weeks early. That helped cut down on some of the phone calls  

walkerb4

I just posted to my facebook today: "No, I do not know when I will go into labor. It's not up to me (unfortunately), it's up to her. I have no insight in her timeline. No one does."

I'm going to karate chop the next person that asks me that in the throat.

frasey

just refer them all to this super-helpful website:

https://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

HappyToBe2012

After my last doctor's appointment, I called my mom to tell her how far I had progressed and that the OB thought I wouldn't make it to my next week's appointment.  I got no less than 3 calls that night alone.  Then she proceeded to call me several times every day until DD arrived.  Luckily, it was only three days...  Everytime I saw her number on the caller ID, she didn't even get a "hello", it was "no baby."

Vii Lii

Starbuck128:

Twelve hours after LO was born, the ILs came over to make dinner. Nice, right? Until MIL insisted I help her make it. Then she left our kitchen a mess and stained one of my placemats.  

Sounds like my mom. Last time she came to cook for us, she used up nearly all of our mixing bowls, cooking spoons, and a ton of plates just for meatloaf. If I hadn't hovored and cleaned during, she would have left us with a full sink of dishes.

stephchris0321

Yeah, I know what you mean. It can be really annoying at times.

HollyB1908

MrsLindinger0905:

The worst is when someone (like my mom) texts or calls and I don't answer right away because I'm at work or taking a much needed NAP, and then they call and call and text and text and try to contact everyone in their phone book to see if they've heard anything. It's like GEEZE mom you will be the FIRST person to know, calm down!

 OMG This is soooo me and my MIL! She is working my LAST DAMN NERVE. My mother is a close second... sheesh! 

HollyB1908

sparks2987:

OMG yes!!!! I could have written this post! I am not even to my EDD yet and I want to yell at everyone. QUIT ASKING!!

I am out of responses that are nice. I dont know when she is coming, I will call you! Now I worry about people calling WHILE I am in labor. geez people I get that you are excited but it is making me nuts. I spend all day telling myself she will come when she is ready and their impatience makes it harder for me to be patient.

and it is not just one or two people it is EVERYWHERE, at work, family, friends, on facebook, church, even people at stores I go to frequently.

For the safety of others I should hibernate the rest of this pregnancy!

 

I LOVE your response! Ditto!!!! And we have the same due date

HollyB1908

frasey:

just refer them all to this super-helpful website:

https://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

LOL I just spit out my drink! HA