I am SO over PT and AF

amh_navyblue

I realize those two things are not necessarily related, but the combo right now is really killing me.  DD#2 has been PT for about a month and overall has done really well, but the last 5-6 days we've had some serious regression...she'll need to go, we'll ask her to go, try to get her to go and she'll refuse.  And then a few minutes later, she'll go in her pants.  I feel like this is starting to become a power issue because I know she can go and likes to go most times.  DH thinks we should put her in time out when it seems like she is deliberately doing it, but I don't want to make a bad association between going to the bathroom and getting in trouble..plus I worry that it will just make everything worse--she is one VERY stubborn little 25 month old.  Any wisdom ladies? 

And I'm REALLY tired of the emotional roller coaster I go through right before AF starts.  Every month it seems that the night before AF arrives, I have some sort of meltdown.  Like most people, I have always been more emotional during that cycle, but it seems so much more dramatic and defined since DD#2.  In most cases what I am getting upset about is legitimate (at least from my perspective lol), but it tends to be way too extreme and it's like I have no control over the reaction.  I really hate the feeling like my hormones are taking over.

Argh.

rnin02

I feel the same way with AF, i feel so out of control and crazy every time it comes around. i feel bad for DS and DH! And PT just stinks!ds has peeing down pretty well, but refuses to poop in the potty. He can hold it for the longest time, hours, days even, and then poop in his pants or pullup. we are.lost at this point, don't know what we are going to do with him!

MrsPhilDunphy

Ah! Get out of my head! We are going through the very same thing with C. I think half of it is a power thing and the other half is that he just doesn't want to stop what he's doing to use the potty. We had people over on Saturday and DH was supposed to be watching C, taking him to the potty, etc. and he had FIVE accidents. I was so mad at DH (because I know he was slacking on watching him) and so frustrated with the whole process. 

Sunday, he blatantly pooped in his undies, lied about it and then thought it was hysterical when DH and I were trying to clean him up. The idea of time outs definitely crossed my mind then, but I don't want to get in to the guilt/shame cycle and I know he's still really young.

Thankfully, he only had one very,very minor accident yesterday so at least it doesn't seem like a full regression now, but gah. This is hard.

And yeah, AF can bite me too. Suddenly my cycles are like 20 days long. Awesome. 

northernvabride

So sorry for the frustration.  As far as time out goes, our pediatrician told us not to do time out for accidents.  Partly because of why you have mentioned, the bad association, but also because she said it calls attention to the behavior even more.  DD has been potty trained for over a year, and still will refuse to go when we know she has to several times a week at least.  The pediatrician told us to really try to be calm about it, and be very supportive of when she does go potty, but not focus too much on the accidents (of couse, you encourage her to go on the potty often, and after the accident try to encourage her to tell you next time so you can make it in time, don't just ignore it).  Since our DD was just 2 when she potty trained, so not that much different than your DD, while she could be very successful at it, you are also dealing with an age where they haven't really connected all the pieces to all these bodily functions and they don't know how well they can control their bodies either.  DD would think she could hold it and keep playing, and then realize too late that she couldn't.  And DD even now will go for weeks with no accidents and then have a bunch all together, so they can just get in a rut.  You just have to be positive and supportive to help get them out of the rut.  Good luck. 

ch ch ch chia

I don't want to scare you, by my DD is also VERY stubborn.  She just turned 3, and is pulling the same antics.  I finally got her to go on the potty yesterday... I don't know what was different.  But, it was a one time occurence, and she peed her pants twice after that.  sigh.

And, my problem with AF is the opposite.  We're TTC #2, and AF *won't* come.  ugh.