I gave birth in Nov 2011 to my first baby girl. I have a lifetime history of depression and anxiety and had been taking Wellbutrin before trying to conceive. After I gave birth I felt fantastic-never better, up until 1.5 weeks ago when LO started sleeping through the night for 8-10 hours. My hormones seems to suddenly shift back to normal (which for me means feeling depressed and anxious and wrestless).
The advice I need is in regards to DH. He is a mental health counselor-so he KNOWS about depression, but he's never experienced anything like it, especially a depression that is so closely linked with biological factors and not situational factors like death, etc. There is no REASON I'm depressed-I just am. Instead of being supportive and checking in on me, he runs and hides and stays away from me like he's scared. If I put up walls because I don't want to be vulnerable he takes it personally and gives me the silent treatment. I've tried to outright tell him I need him but then he gets overly sensitive and thinks I'm criticizing and turns the conversation into being about him. He's a very sweet guy, but this one area has him completely dumbfounded which has left me feeling abandoned in my biggest area of need for support.
So, those who have been there-what do you say to get your S/O to understand and to snap into it? I can't go through life fighting depression on my own, especially not with a baby.