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Cleaning-up Google?

Tiffany946Tiffany946
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So, for part of our process, I am trying to google our names differently T&T +our city, etc.  Did you remove certain thins off of the web (i.e. facebook? or other social networking) during your adoption process?  We will be in an open adoption, and will decided exactly what that means once we are matched and we get to know our birth mother.

 

However, lately I've heard some very big horror stories about birth mother's and I really don't want to be searched on the web...

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  • Art TeacherArt Teacher

    No, we didn't remove anything from the web.  If anything, we put more out there in the hopes of being linked with a birthmom/birthparents.  We created an adoption website, and I continued writing on my adoption blog. (We didn't use our last name on anything, but we did use pictures.) 

     We have an open adoption with our daughter's birthmom - she knows where we live, has our phone numbers, has been to our home many times, etc.  I can't think of anything that I wouldn't have wanted her to see online.

    What are your specific concerns? 

     

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    I did a Google search, made private some pictures that I didn't realize were public and that's about it. We have a blog site through Google, so I didn't put up our last names and didn't release it publicly - it can only be accessed through our agency website or if you have the blog address. Other than that, we aren't really worried about it.
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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member

    imageTiffany946:
    However, lately I've heard some very big horror stories about birth mother's and I really don't want to be searched on the web...

    Keep perspective... as with anything, only the nasty situations make the news. 
    I think if you polled our group, most of us would say we have/had positive situations overall with birth moms.  Sure, there are things I would change... but nothing that is so drastic that it would upset me if she was able to "google" me. 

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    We didn't worry too much about it, and still don't.

    My Nest/Bump name is also the name of a company that sells face creams. My married name is shared with a well-published nurse. Our blog has our last name as part of the URL, but we only use initials in it.

    As far as DD's BM is concerned, she only wants the contact we have through the agency. We set up a blog for her to see pictures/stories of DD on a regular basis, but it doesn't have any identifying info. And I wouldn't care if it did, at least as far as she's concerned. We have a good relationship with her and would actually like more contact!

    As far as FB, we're not FB friends, and I use a screenname on there anyway.

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