BD didn't show up again!

Marksmommy321

So my son's father was supposed to pick him up today and of course he didn't and I havn't heard from him since Thursday when he asked if he could have him today.(Technically it is his Sunday to have him). I honestly should have know he wasn't going to show up. I swear everytime I make plans to go out and do something when my son is with his father he NEVER gets him.

I refuse to text him to find out if he's even coming because 1 if we ever go back to court I can say hey look he didnt show up again and he didn't tell me he wasn't coming. And 2 it will just start a huge fight so im just not doing it. And I'm not being nice about him getting him any other days this week. But I'm sure somehow it will be MY fault because he didn't come get him today. I swear he knows the right buttons to push to piss me off.

TwinkieFiend

I'm sorry to hear this.  It sounds like it might not be a good idea on making plans when BD is supposed to have visitation or you'll be disappointed a lot.

You also should make sure you stick to the CO about any other days.  If he doesn't take visitation on his days you should not be letting him make up those days at another time.  I know you probably want LO to have a relationship with his dad, but if you let him walk all over you and dictate your schedule he'll think he always can.

I know you're mad and I'm not trying to sound unsupportive, because that does suck!  You think you're getting some much needed baby free time and BD is being his stellar self.  But adjusting your expectations and being firm in scheduling will help you in the long run.  Good luck!

FyreFlyeRush

Make sure you keep a visitation journal! You can take this to court if you ever end up needing to go back. Plus, I've known more than one dad the lies about how accessible mom makes LO.  

BeachBum1223

The visitation journal is very important.  And, I'm not sure where you meet for him to pick up but if you were meeting at a fast food restaurant buy a drink and keep the receipt as proof that you were there at the designated time.

Marksmommy321

Sorry it has taken me so lonng to reply back I just havn't had a chance. I do have a binder that I keep a record of everything in. Every text message,email,and a calander with days he was supposed to get him and didn't.

He did wind up texting me at 3:30 (he was supposed to get him at 10) the he had been sick for 4 days and he didn't want to get him sick. Yes that is great that he didnt want him so he didnt get him sick but come on it took you til 330 to tell me!!

As for me making plans everytime I do I know in my heart he's not coming so even though  I make plans I know none of them are ever going to happen so I'll usually just take LO with me or just wait tilnext time.