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I need help with behaviors

mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
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If I get headbutted, kicked, punched, or screamed at one more time I think I'm selling a 4 year old on e-bay ;) Seriously, I'm needing big time help. This morning I asked him to NOT have his train tracks going in the hallway from the living room to the kitchen.  I was going up and down stairs right next to where he wanted to be.  We just got a few kittens and they love to go in our basement.  I didn't want them there and the train tracks kept luring them to the basement.  He started throwing the tracks at me, when I tried having him pick them up he head butted me.  I ended in a chair in tears.  I'm having some issues with me and I can't have him behaving like he is period but more so because my blood pressure will go up and can cause me more issues with my heart.  
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Re: I need help with behaviors

  • WahooWahoo member

    If I told DS/DD to keep their train tracks off the stairs and they were still on the stairs (or they fought me while picking them up), I would pick up the train tracks myself, put them in a box, and they would stay in the box for a few days. 

    I took a course called S.T.E.P.  (It has nothing to do with step-parenting or blended families - it's just the acronym used).  You can buy the book on ebay and just read instead of taking the course.  It's big on natural consequences.  Kids don't pick up toys?  They end up in a box, or given away.  The premise is that a "time out" doesn't teach kids to pick up their toys, but kids learn that if they don't take care of their toys, the toys go away (which happens in real life, whether things get lost, stolen, or ruined). 

    image "Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.
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  • mommyof4boysmommyof4boys member
    It's done here but he doesn't understand natural concepts.  I would do that with my other boys.  The problem is working on behaviors with a child whose developmental levels are not at what his chronological age is.  His language skills are around 1/2 of his age as well.  He has no concept of day/time as well.  I do a few minutes for most things as that is enough.  He would have no clue why his toys would be in a time out for longer.  He's just not there developmentally.
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