Having a hard time with transitioning...

ERINPETERSON

Hi Ladies- My son is going on 6 months old and we co-sleep. He has been sleeping in his PNP since he was a newborn and I was wondering if I will ever be able to let go of him sleeping in our room with DH and I? I want him to be able to sleep in his crib eventually and I tried the other night to place him in his crib but I started to tear up and literally couldnt put him down in it. I just stood there and stared at it like it was evil?! 

Does anyone have a similar experience? If so how did you handle it and when did you have your LO transition into their crib?

In my opinion I feel like its too early but am told to do it now?  

rosiemomma

I love bed-sharing with my 2-year-old I didn't start until she was 8months and will do it until she is close to 4.

I don't think anything is wrong with bed-sharing, if you want to continue than do! don't give it up because others want you too! There is certainly benefits to continuing and if it works for you then keep it up! 

I barely used a crib and am glad I got it for free now!

cfisher2008

My DD is 8 months and DH and I are not ready for her to leave our room yet, which is just as well because DD isn't either! So in her PNP (and sometimes our bed) she goes! If you don't feel ready, you don't have to do it just because other people tell you to. Do what feels right to you and your DH- and LO.

danseusefrancaise

I remember not wanting to put DS down in his crib in the first several months.  I just wanted to hold him or cuddle next to him the whole time he slept!  There's no reason you need to put him in his crib or anywhere else.  Have him wherever you want him to be, including in your bed, for as long as you want!  Definitely don't put him outside of your bed because someone else told you he needs to be.  That will just fill you with sadness and regret later that you didn't do what you wanted to do with your son.  Go bedsharing!

kcisthebombdotcom

Dont listen to what others say.

I transitioned my son at 20 months old from sleeping in bed with me to sleeping in his own room without any tears. Its possible.

If *you* want to have LO start sleeping in his own room because that arrangement isnt working for your family anymore, there's nothing wrong with that. You dont have to room share forever. What I would do is start putting the pnp in his room during the day. Spend time in there during the day so he gets accustomed to the space.

If you're just considering transitioning because it's what everyone else thinks you should do, I would wait until you feel ready to do so.

boogerbearoriginal

Do what you feel is best for your family, not what someone else "tells" you to do. What do they think, if you don't transition him at 6mo he'll be in bed with you at 16? I somehow don't think that will be an issue.

And based on what I've heard from people who have bed shared and then transitioned older children, it's not a big deal. It seems like a lot of people who talk about "needing to get the baby used to a crib" have never bed shared.

It's never good to live your life trying to please other people. If you/H/LO are happy sharing a bed then keep on. 

PayolaCrayola

This actually makes me feel much better...I have been co sleeping with my daughter since she was born...she is now almost 10mo. During the day she sleeps on the pnp or her crib but at night with me....I've actually been having a hard time because I tried CIO to get her in her crib & I only lasted 40min...it was terrible & I couldn't stop crying & I realized that I just don't want to do it so why should I? We are all happy & that's what counts